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There are a lot of negative people in this world and those negative people will tear you apart if you allow them to. Rather than trying to see the bright side of things, these people are always holding onto the bad things.

If you’re dealing with someone in your life that is constantly belittling you and making you feel bad, you need to limit their presence in your world. These people should not be holding power over you and you should not be allowing them to bring you down. If you allow these people places in your life, they’re only going to make things harder on you in the long-run.

Below I am going to go over some things you can and should do to prevent these negative Nancy’s from taking over your mind and throwing your well-being under the bus. While you might care about these people, they aren’t good for you and you need to do what’s best for you. While some of these things will be harder than you might expect they will all be important.

5 Ways To Keep Negative People From Bringing You Down:

1. Give up your people-pleasing ways.

Pleasing other people is not something you should be worrying about. If you’re not pleasing yourself how could you ever expect to please other people? At the end of the day if you’re not being true to yourself then you’re doing something wrong. You cannot please everyone and the sooner you come to terms with that the better.

2. Remember that you cannot solve everyone else’s problems.

You are not in charge of everyone else’s wellbeing. If you’re trying to solve the problems of everyone in your life you’re only going to disappoint yourself in the end. While there are people who will try to push their issues onto you, you need to be able to separate yourself from those issues. We are responsible for our own problems and the people who are facing them must work through them on their own. Sure, sometimes you can help with smaller things but you’re not perfect and you sometimes won’t have the answers.

3. Work to understand that you are not defined by the thoughts of others.

While other people might have some pretty nasty things to say about you that doesn’t mean that their words or thoughts define you. You’re not who they say you are, you are who you are. At the end of the day, you’re the only person who is capable of defining yourself and you should work to never forget that.

4. Surround yourself with people who actually have your best interest in mind.

Stop letting people stay close who aren’t going to help you when you need help. Surround yourself with people who have proven to you that they care. If they don’t have your best interest in mind they don’t deserve a place in your life.

5. Cut off the people who make you feel drained or who refuse to put any effort into your connection.

While cutting people off isn’t always easy, it is important. Let go of people who refuse to put forth the efforts that you put forth to make the connection work. You’re not a toy that can be stepped on. Be willing to hold your own.