Jess Stacy has been a licensed therapist for over 20 years and has recently caught the attention of hundreds of thousands of people on TikTok. On TikTok, she creates videos where she explains what she does and doesn’t do with her kids, based on her decades of experience.

On TikTok, Stacy has amassed a following of 379.9k. Of her videos, the one entitled “By popular request, as a licensed therapist who’s been in practice for 20 years and a mom, here are five things that I don’t do with my kids,” is her most popular and for good reason. A lot of these caught people off guard, because they aren’t your typical advice given by a psychologist. However, she does make some valid points.

Here are 5 things she does not do with her kids, as a 20-year licensed therapist.

1. “Number one, I ask for consent when I go to hug my kids,” Stacy says. “I teach them the importance of bodily autonomy and advocating for themselves and saying ‘no’ when they’re uncomfortable.”

2. “Number two, I don’t comment on their bodies. We discussed the importance of bodily exercise and nutrition, and we just don’t talk about our bodies, and I don’t talk about my own in front of them either.”

3. “Number three — I don’t talk about [my personal] finances in front of my kids. I don’t talk about how much money I make, or where my money goes. That’s not for them to be concerned about.”

4. “Number four — I don’t compare my kids to each other, or ask them for a change that’s more like their sibling.”

5. “Number five — I don’t place value on food, and I don’t reward or punish with it.”