While commitment can be scary, the act in itself is a beautiful thing. Being with someone on a level that makes you that comfortable is not something we should ever give up easily.
If you are someone who struggles to commit within your relationships and you don’t understand why there could be something deeper going on. A lot of people in this day and age seem to have a hard time really settling down and it isn’t exactly what you’d expect when broken apart. A serious relationship is a big responsibility but it is also one of the most amazing things you can find in life.
Below I am going to go over some of the reasons why we sometimes struggle with commitment and what you can do to better understand each of these things. How many of these are affecting you and can you work through them? Where are you in your love life?
5 Reasons Why We Sometimes Struggle To Truly Commit:
1. We don’t feel like the person we’re ‘with’ is ready to properly invest.
Whether the person we’re with is ready or not if we don’t feel like they’re ready we’re going to be hesitant. This is one of those things where we have to sit down with each other and talk things through. You never know if you’re both on the same page if you’re not willing to actually talk it out.
The more we struggle with trusting other people the harder it’s going to be to commit. Commitment is not easy and if we cannot trust the person we’re considering as a partner, we’re not going to want to offer that vulnerability to them. Trust is something that must be earned, but we also have to be reasonable overall. You can’t expect anyone to be perfect, we’re all merely human.
3. We don’t feel like we’re ready.
You shouldn’t force yourself to commit if you’re not ready and if you know you’re not ready then make that clear to the person you’re ‘fooling’ around with. There is nothing wrong with being single or just playing the field if you’re straight up with the people in your life. That being said, you need to make sure you’re not leading anyone on in doing this.
Sometimes we do not commit to one person for fear of missing out on someone better coming along. While you might be with the best you’ll ever get committing closes you off from other options. Just because you could miss out on something else doesn’t mean what you already have before you isn’t worth committing to.
5. You’re just not satisfied/being with the wrong people.
Being satisfied within your relationship is important. If you’re with the wrong person or not satisfied properly you shouldn’t bother committing. You need to cut ties and move on rather than just stringing this person along. This kind of thing affects more than just you and you need to be aware of that.