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Many of us spend the entirety of our 20s dreading the big 3-0. And while the thought of getting older can be frightening- it doesn’t have to be.

As someone who has passed 30, I have to say that the lessons I have learned in my 20s helped me to define myself in a new way in my 30s. When people say your 30s can truly be the best years of your life-they are being honest. We are programmed as a society to fear age, especially certain age milestones. But, when you talk to people who have been there, most of them will tell you it’s not the end of the world.

A lot of us hit 30 and suddenly feel like a failure, because we aren’t living the perfect life we envisioned we would have by now. That is just one of the mistakes made after turning 30. If you are soon to hit 30 or have recently turned 30, this is something to avoid.

1. Feeling like you should have found the ‘perfect’ partner by now.

There is no age at which you should be married to the perfect person. And if you are 30 and haven’t met them yet, don’t prescribe to the mentality that all the good ones are taken. They are not, and you still have plenty of time to find the RIGHT one for you.

2. Thinking that it’s all downhill from here.

A lot of think you hit 30 and your body begins to break down. You can no longer do fun things after 30, right? Uhm, no. There are plenty of people in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s living their best lives and still doing all the things. It’s uphill, baby.

3. Expecting to have it all together by 30.

You might hit 30 being smarter than you were when you hit 20, but you are a human and there is no timeline in which you are required to have it all together. People change careers at 30. People go back to school. You can be at whatever level you are at, and as long as you are willing to grow, you will be fine.

4. Believing you cannot start over.

Another mistake people make is thinking that after a certain age, you are too old to start over. You are never too old to completely transform your life. People do that at all ages, and a lot of people don’t start over and accomplish their goals until they are well into their 30s.

5. Being overly critical about their bodies.

We tend to equate old age to a lack of beauty. But beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and ages. There is a reason that people say beauty comes with age because each stage of our life offers a different type of beauty. No, you won’t always look 20, that just isn’t in reality. Yes, you can still be hot at 30, 40, 50, 60, and so on.