It is a common misconception that if two perfect people meet, then it should be easy, that things will fall into place and no matter what happens, the relationship will last. However, no matter how perfect your relationship may seem, if your relationship habits are counterproductive, even the best relationship can come to an end.
At the end of the day, it is our habits that make or break our relationships. Of course, some habits stand out above the rest and are what we would refer to as relationship killers. These relationship killers may seem like normal things, however, with the statistics taken into consideration, it is likely best to not just accept behaviors as normal because what is normal isn’t always working.
With that said, here are 5 common relationship habits that destroy relationships.
1. Holding your partner in contempt.
According to the Gottman Institute, founded by John Gottman and his wife, who has researched the topic of love for decades, contempt is the number one relationship killer. An example of contempt, is when one partner is constantly degrading or undermining their partner. They may passive aggressive remarks or otherwise make statements that would have you believe they hate their partner.
2. Refusing to work on yourself and grow.
No person is easy to deal with, and I am sorry if you think that you are, because we all have our difficulties. At the end of the day, if you are blaming everything on your partner and refusing to see your part in the relationship, this can make it very hard to resolve issues.
Dishonesty destroys relationships. While a lie can be moved past in some cases, when lying becomes consistent, making it hard to decipher truth from fiction, it will destroy the trust. If the trust is destroyed, if it can be mended, it will take time.
4. Lack of trust.
Trust is fundamental to relationships. Without it, partners can become obsessive to the point of pushing each other way and at the end of the day, it can get downright toxic.
5. Lack of support.
Relationships are supposed to be two people on a team, cheering the other on, and pushing their partner to achieve their goals. When one partner or both are unable to do that, due to several reasons, it’s a bad sign that this is going to end in a bad way.