Cheating is sadly something that happens a lot in this day and age. Far more people are interested in hooking up with randoms than being faithful to the people who care for them the most and it’s quite sickening.
Whether it’s physical cheating or emotional cheating the damage it can do to your partner is not worth the things you gain through cheating. Cheating comes in many different ‘shapes and sizes’ and should not be something that we consider, ever. If you’re not happy in your relationship, leave and then find someone else to be with. Why is that so hard for people to grasp?
Below I am going to go over some of the more common excuses that people seem to make when it comes to cheating whether it’s a sexual act or just putting their all into someone else in a different way. These are excuses that for the cheater seem ‘reasonable’ however, they’re anything but. Don’t accept these excuses when they’re presented to you, they’re literal bull.
5 Common Excuses For Cheating And What Makes Them Complete Bull:
1. ‘I didn’t think you’d find out.’
While still a load of bull at least this one in itself is honest. You cheated because you thought your partner would never find out and now she/he has. That having been said, it proves how little you respect the person who cares for you the most.
When you find that your partner has cheated on you and their excuse is that they didn’t think you’d ever know it should tell you all you need to know. Not only do they show no remorse for what they’ve done they will probably do it again. They’re not upset that they did it in the first place, just upset that you found out.
2. ‘Online cheating isn’t actually cheating.’
Yes, it is, sure porn is fine within reason but sharing nudes with someone online behind your partner’s back or texting through some kind of messenger is not okay. Unless you and your partner have specified that this is behavior they are alright with, you shouldn’t be doing it.
When you find out that your partner is doing something like this online it makes you feel like you’re not good enough for him/her. You feel like you’re not pleasing your partner properly and it really sucks. No one should have to experience this kind of thing even if it’s ‘just some internet fun’ for them.
3. ‘I was feeling neglected by you.’
If you were feeling neglected in your own relationship and you still didn’t want to leave cheating should have already been off the table. If you wanted things to work you should have talked the issues you had over with your partner. Cheating doesn’t make anything better, it only drives that wedge between you and your partner deeper.
When you find that your partner is cheating, and he or she says it’s because of you in any way just know that their full of sh!t. They cheated because they wanted to and while they might have felt neglected on some level, cheating was not the way to go about making anything better. That only causes more damage than it’s ever worth.
4. ‘I just needed to boost my own self-esteem.’
If cheating on someone who cares for you is a self-esteem boost you have some weird things going on in your mind that you need to work through. While having people give you compliments is fine and will make you feel great actually putting time and effort into someone else be it physical or otherwise is not okay. This is a dangerous slope to go down.
When you find that your partner is cheating and it’s the result of something like this or, so they say, it can make you feel like you’re not doing the things you need to be doing in your relationship. That in itself is something you should not be feeling the pain off of. You’re not responsible for how your partner feels in this sense, he or she might want a self-esteem boost but that doesn’t mean they went about it in the right way. If cheating to them was a self-esteem boost how much further do you think they’re willing to go?
5. ‘I just couldn’t help myself.’
Yes, you could. You didn’t have to do what you did and it’s not like someone had a gun to your head and forced you to do it. This excuse is not only a complete load of crap, but it’s also about as lazy as it can get.
When you find out that your partner is cheating on you the last thing you want to hear is ‘I just couldn’t help myself.’ Your partner wanted to do what he or she did and through giving this excuse that’s basically all they’re saying. The more you hear this one the less respect you’ll end up having for your partner overall.
Keep in mind there are tons of other just as crappy excuses that people in this world will try to use to pull the wool over your eyes regarding cheating. If you and your partner are already to this point you need to figure things out in your mind before anywhere else. If you don’t want to stay you don’t have to. Their cheating could ruin the relationship and that is something they have to live with.