Many of us have encountered individuals who, on the surface, seem kind-hearted and genuine, but beneath the veneer, they carry hidden agendas. It’s essential to recognize the signs of manipulative behavior, even if it’s masked behind a façade of niceness. By understanding these behaviors, you can protect yourself and maintain authentic relationships.
1. Excessive Flattery
Manipulative individuals often use excessive flattery to win people over. While it’s natural for friends and loved ones to compliment one another, a manipulator will often provide exaggerated praise, especially when they want something in return.
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2. Guilt Tripping
These individuals have a knack for making you feel guilty, even if you haven’t done anything wrong. They might play the victim or subtly hint that you owe them because of all the “kind” things they’ve done for you in the past.
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3. Withholding Information or Affection
Manipulative people can sometimes withhold information or affection as a way to gain leverage. They might leave out critical details to ensure things go their way or use affection as a tool, giving or taking it away based on what they want to achieve.
4. Playing Dumb
Some manipulators pretend not to understand a situation to avoid responsibility. By acting as if they’re confused or didn’t realize the impact of their actions, they can get out of facing the consequences.
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5. Constantly Shifting the Goalposts
Once you think you’ve met their needs or demands, they change them, making it nearly impossible for you to ever truly please them. This tactic keeps you in a constant state of trying to win their approval.
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