In life, we are faced with many things that are out of our control, however, for the most part, we are in control of our lives. When it comes down to it, we are our protectors, and one of our most important tasks is setting boundaries for ourselves in our lives.
Without boundaries, we end up taking advantage of, depleted, and completely unaligned with the life we are striving to have. And in most cases, as long as you tolerate bad behaviors or situations, they are going to remain in your life. At the end of the day, no one is coming to save us, and we have to save ourselves and draw the line.
Here are 12 things no one should ever tolerate.
1. Disrespect.
In life, we are going to come into contact with disrespectful people. And while you may not be able to prevent someone from being disrespectful in the first place, you do not have to tolerate their behavior. In any situation, when someone is disrespectful, we have the right to stand up for ourselves and assert boundaries.
2. Unhappiness at work.
We will spend a massive amount of time in our lives at work, unfortunately. But, just because we have to work, doesn’t mean we should have to work somewhere where we are unhappy and left stagnant. There are many jobs in this world, and in modern times, there is an increasing number of online jobs. If you feel stuck or stagnant at work, do some research and look into other options. I promise, there is something out there better than being in a job you resent.
3. Living an unhealthy lifestyle.
We have many choices in life, and habits that we can implement to either improve or derail our lives. Yes, everyone has bad habits or imbibes in an unhealthy behavior from time to time. However, when these habits grow out of control, taking over our lives and making us unhappy, we are the ones who have to do damage control.
If your lifestyle is unhappy, deep down, you likely already realize that and know why. It’s up to you to lay down the line and say “I am not going to tolerate this from myself anymore.”
4. Abuse.
Do not ever tolerate abuse of any kind. Regardless of whether it’s physical, emotional, or psychological, do not allow anyone to abuse you are cause harm to your mind, body, or soul. And if someone does, realizing it is the first step to setting boundaries and cutting ties.
5. Infidelity.
Infidelity is perhaps one of the biggest betrayals a person can endure. If your partner cheats, you have to decipher how you want to move forward, and whether or not you want to give them another chance. If they betray your trust and continue to, you most definitely should not tolerate that.
6. Cruel people.
Personally, if I notice someone that I am around being cruel to another person or child, or an animal, or just in general, I immediately stop going around them. I refuse to deal with cruel people or keep them around me. And it’s best to because inherently cruel people most likely cannot and will not change.
7. Negativity.
What we surround ourselves with is what we become. Because of this, I do not tolerate negativity. I don’t like complaining, or being around complainers, and I don’t want to be in any situation that gives me a bad vibe. It’s our job to protect our peace, no one is coming to do it for us.
8. Living outside of our integrity.
Have you ever engaged in an activity or been a part of a situation in which you just felt dirty, shameful, or gross? For example, if you are in a situation in which your values are placed into question, like being around someone who is committing a crime, you would likely feel wrong. That feeling that we feel is our gut telling us to STOP. And don’t ever hesitate to listen to that feeling. If you do, you will almost always regret it.
9. Fear of change.
Change shouldn’t be what we fear, but instead, what we strive for. In most cases, when we fear change, we block ourselves from new and better opportunities. Unfortunately, when we never change, we also never get better, and this is something you simply shouldn’t tolerate.
10. Negative self-talk.
Negative self-talk is the destroyer of your peace and sanity. And it will NEVER motivate you or make you better. If you notice your mind moving in that direction, and you begin thinking thoughts like “I am worthless,” or “I’m fat,” or “I’m dumb,” stop it! Instead say things like, “I have the power to do whatever I put my mind does,” or start thinking of things you have accomplished. Your perspective is everything in this life.
11. Unsupportive friends.
You are who you surround yourself with. If you are around people who don’t support you or try to sway you from your beliefs, values, and interests when they are what is pushing you to grow, get away from those people. They will only hold you back.
12. The urge to stay in your comfort zone.
Our comfort zone is the destroyer of dreams. As humans, we are geared to find comfort and safety, however, your comfort zone will only stagnant you. If you want to learn, to grow, and to get better, you have to reach beyond it.
13. Following the status quo.
People who blindly accept the status quo are not revolutionary, they are not visionaries who will help to make the world a better place. Instead, they are followers. And while a lot of good people are just that, I don’t want to just be ordinary, I want to be the best I possibly can be. To be that, I am going to continue to think critically, and to always challenge what I do not agree with.
14. Allowing money to rule over you.
Money is great, it pays our bills, buys us fun things, and puts food in our stomachs. However, it’s not the be-all-end-all of everything. It doesn’t compare to the people we love or the precious moments we have in this life. It’s just money.