When it comes to life and love, might think we need one thing, only to learn later that we were very wrong. Not everyone is what they seem, and that is something we need to come to terms with as soon as possible in life so that we can build a positive future for ourselves.
If you have to question whether or not the person you’re falling for has good intentions, chances are they don’t. While we can’t necessarily control who we end up falling for, we can avoid those who are only going to bring us down or hold us back, to an extent. Below, I am going to go over some of the signs that we should keep in mind when it comes to figuring out whether we’re interested in the right people or not. If someone you’re falling for fits into these signs or makes these things prominent in your life, you should probably cut your losses while you can.
14 Signs You’re Falling In Love With The Wrong Person:
1. They don’t give you your personal space.
If someone you’re close with isn’t willing to be respectful of you and your personal space, they aren’t going to honor your boundaries at all. We all need time to ourselves, and without that relationships aren’t going to work. You shouldn’t waste your time on someone who isn’t able to let you live your own life.
2. You can’t communicate well with them.
Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you cannot sit down and talk issues through with the person you’re interested in, then things will never work. You cannot just go through the motions and leave issues unspoken, this sets you up to fail before things have even begun.
3. You aren’t happy with them.
If you don’t like the way someone makes you feel, why bother getting into a relationship with them? Sure, you might be attached, and you might think they’re attractive, but there is more to a relationship than just that. Your wellbeing matters.
4. They don’t support you at all.
We all need support. If you cannot come to this person when you need him/her, they aren’t worth trying for. You deserve to gain all that you offer in this kind of romantic situation.
5. You are kind of embarrassed by them.
While a little embarrassment is normal, if you are completely embarrassed by the person you’re thinking about romantically, you need to take that into consideration moving forward. Are things too extreme to work through? Is this person really someone you can be with, and should you be with someone you’re embarrassed by?
6. Being with them is quite exhausting.
If being around this person exhausts you, why would you want to be so close to them that you spend most of your time with them? Again, your own wellbeing matters and should be considered moving forth. Sometimes things just aren’t worth the fight.
7. They poke fun at you all the time.
When you’re around someone who pokes fun at you, it really tears you down over time. If someone you’re interested in actually dating is like this, they’re probably more toxic than they’re worth. You can try to talk this out, but if other signs are present, you might want to cut your losses.
8. You don’t necessarily see a future with them, or they don’t see one with you.
If you can’t see a future with someone, or they can’t see a future with you, don’t waste your time. We only get one life in this world, and things go by a lot quicker than most realize. The longer time you waste on those who are only holding you back, the less time you have with truly positive people.
9. You spend way too much time together and can’t get anything else done.
If you spend too much time with this person to the point where it’s keeping you from doing other important things, perhaps you should consider not being with them. While it’s ultimately up to you, you don’t want to fall behind. Life doesn’t stop just because you’re in love.
10. They are a bit too controlling.
If the person you’re trying to date is already too controlling, then you shouldn’t pursue them. Things are only going to get worse as time passes. The way they treat you now should be how they hook you, and if they’re not even being kind towards you, it’s very telling of how the future might play out to be.
11. You give up your values for them.
If someone you’re trying to be with is forcing you into giving up your values, you don’t need to continue forward with them. Our values are something we should not compromise on. We are not toys and should not be treated as such.
12. They seem to really want to change you.
If the person you’re interested in is trying to turn you into someone you’re not, they don’t like you for who you are anyways. We should be with people who accept us and love us for the truth that we live. We are not meant to bend to fit the people we’re with.
13. They don’t seem to care about your wellbeing.
When we are with people who don’t actually care about us, we are stuck in limbo and forcing ourselves behind. You deserve a partner who is going to care about you and be there for you when you need them. You are important, please always remember that.
14. You cannot be yourself around them.
If you can’t be yourself around someone, you don’t need to let them in your life. You need to surround yourself by people who care for you and accept you for who you are. If you can’t open up with them, move on.