While it might not seem as big of a deal, verbal mistreatment is a serious issue. When you’re with someone who is constantly bringing you down you’re hurting yourself in ways you shouldn’t be forced to deal with.
In this day and age, we have for some reason normalized a lot of things that go hand in hand with verbal mistreatment and this is something we should not be doing. Below I am going to go over some of the signs that your partner might be or most likely is verbally mistreating you. While you might not spot them right off the bat, the more you begin to understand the more you will notice properly.
12 Signs Of Verbal Mistreatment Within A Relationship That Most People Normalize:
1. Your partner withholds information from you.
When we’re with someone who refuses to tell you things that you need to know you’re with the wrong person. People who are mistreating us in our relationships are often going to refuse to tell us things that are important. They will lie to cover their own rear ends and ignore all of our truest emotions.
2. Your partner is always accusing you of things.
If the person you’re with is accusing you of things you didn’t even have time to do or would never do. You should understand that there is no trust in your relationship. Being with someone who is going to always make you feel like you’re doing the worst when you’re not is a waste of time and only going to hurt you in the long-run.
3. Your partner always discounts your thoughts of feelings.
Partners who verbally mistreat their lovers tend to also discount their thoughts and feelings. They don’t care about what you’re feeling or how things are affecting you. They only think about themselves.
4. Your partner is always blaming you for things you have no control over.
In this life, there are a lot of things that happen that we cannot change and have no control over. If you’re with someone who is always blaming you for those things you are with the wrong person. As lovers, we should always be as understanding with one another as possible.
5. Your partner makes fun of you and ‘jokes’ about things that really bug you.
People who mistreat their partners verbally tend to hit them with low blows. If your lover is making jokes about things they know make you upset then they’re trying to hurt you whether they admit it or not. Your weaknesses and insecurities are not weapons and should not be used as such.
6. Your partner judges and criticizes you.
You and your partner in a healthy relationship would not be judging one another. While constructive criticism is alright from time to time there are lines that should not be crossed. We as lovers should only be helping one another grow not forcing one another into the dark.
7. Your partner calls you names when he or she is angry.
If your partner is the kind who runs into calling you names and kicking you when you’re down, you’re with someone who doesn’t care if he or she mistreats you. They will do whatever they feel is necessary and not think twice about how you feel.
8. Your partner embarrasses you in public.
If you and your partner respect one another there should not be any room for public humiliation. When you’re with someone who refuses to filter his or herself in public know that they do not respect you. They will say and do whatever they want regardless of how it makes you look.
9. Your partner makes threats towards you.
If your partner is threatening you then there is more than enough reason present for you to leave. Whether those threats hold merit or not they should be taken seriously. No one deserves to be treated in a way that makes them feel unsafe.
10. Your partner is overly possessive of you and becomes more jealous than he or she should.
When you’re with someone who crosses your boundaries and makes you feel like a possession you are with someone who doesn’t care about you in the ways a lover is supposed to. While a little jealousy is normal, there are limits and you should be aware of those. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re a toy, you are your own person.
11. Your partner often tells you what to do instead of asking you to do something.
Dating is a bit complicated for a lot of reasons but if you’re in a relationship with someone who is controlling and always giving you demands rather than being with you and supporting you properly you need to get out. As a couple, you shouldn’t be telling one another what to do. You should be a team and that should always be something you keep in mind.
12. You always have to watch what you say around them.
When it comes to being in a relationship you shouldn’t have to be on edge and censoring yourself constantly. You again are your own person and you have your own thoughts. You should be able to express yourself with your partner freely.