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There is no such thing as a perfect woman or a perfect man for that matter, but there is such a thing as a good woman and a good man. And while that is an irrefutable truth, there most definitely are some women that stand out above the rest.

For a deeper exploration into understanding relationships, consider diving into “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. It’s a transformative read that can help both partners better connect.

The definition of a good woman is going to differ from person to person, however, some standard traits ring true across the board. If you’ve ever met a woman like this, then you already know what I am saying is true. And if you are with a good woman, you likely already have a feeling that there is something special about her. But, if you still aren’t 100% sure, check out the following signs.

1. She knows what she wants.

She knows what she wants, and she doesn’t beat around the bush about it. She isn’t pushy, but she is clear and doesn’t play games with your feelings and heart.

2. She inspires you to become a better version of yourself.

When you are around her, she inspires you to be a better person. And you don’t want to just be a better person for her, but also for yourself and just in general. There’s just something about her that inspires you to be better.

If you’re inspired to further self-improvement, “Atomic Habits” by James Clear is a fantastic guide to cultivating great habits.

3. She isn’t codependent or clingy.

She allows you space to breathe and has her own life and desires space of her own. She doesn’t constantly blow up your phone or demand you to be around her or with her at all times.

4. She enjoys bringing you around the people she loves the most.

And she isn’t shy to introduce you to her closest family and friends. On the contrary, she wants you to meet the people she loves, and she seems proud of you when she introduces you to her people.

5. She doesn’t play with your emotions.

She is clear about what she wants, and she doesn’t play with your emotions. She isn’t manipulative or vindictive, and she makes sure that she is careful with your heart.

6. She’s unique.

There’s something about her that sets her apart from everyone else. She has her way of being, and she doesn’t try to be like everyone else or mimic a certain style or person. She is her person.

For embracing one’s uniqueness and journey, “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown provides wisdom on wholehearted living.

7. She is supportive of you and encourages you.

When you feel down and need support and encouragement, you can always depend on her. She doesn’t belittle you or undermine your efforts and hard work. Instead, she pushes you to achieve whatever you set your mind to.

8. She’s empathetic.

She is highly empathetic and attuned to how you feel. When she knows you are going through something, she is comforting. When you are upset, she doesn’t push you or makes things harder. She is attuned to your emotions and respects and validates them.

9. She’s not insecure or jealous.

She isn’t in competition with anyone else, and she knows that. She isn’t insecure about you having a life of your own or being around other people. She doesn’t play games or tries to make you jealous, and she doesn’t get jealous about you.

10. She considers the relationship a team effort.

She knows that a healthy relationship should be a team effort. And she strives to help you when you are down and expects you to do the same for her.

11. She has goals and a vision for her life.

She has a clear vision for her life, and plans and aspirations. She also includes you in that vision and encourages you to set goals with her.

12. She doesn’t hold you to an unreasonable standard.

She knows it’s unfair to hold you to an unreasonable standard. While she does expect you to be a good person, and she does expect you to grow, she doesn’t force you to do anything outside of your comfort zone or expect perfection from you.

To nurture a stronger bond in relationships and understand different perspectives, “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” by John Gray offers insights into gender differences and ways to bridge the gap.