The dating world is not the easiest to navigate, especially if you’ve had bad experiences in the past that caused you to doubt yourself. And even if you don’t doubt yourself, people can be hard to read.
Have you ever wondered how to decode the language of love and attachment? “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller feels like a roadmap to understanding relationships. It’s like having a heart-to-heart with a wise friend who helps you navigate the complex world of emotional bonds, making it a must-read for anyone trying to untangle the signals of attachment in their relationship.
If you are wondering where a man stands with you and if he feels the same attachment, here are 12 signs a man is emotionally attached.
1. He is comfortable around you.
When he is around you, he isn’t afraid to be himself. He talks to you about things, and you see a side of him that no one else does, in a good way.
2. He celebrates good news with you.
When he has good news or when you have good news, he celebrates with you. He supports and encourages you and leans on you for support and encouragement. You can feel a real bond between the two of you.
3. He makes it a point to spend time with you.
Rather than blowing you off, he makes it a point to spend time with you. And not just hanging out, he focuses his full attention on you when you are around.
If you’re trying to understand the emotional world of your partner, “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” by John Gray is like sitting down for coffee with an old friend who explains it all. This book sheds light on the different ways men and women express their feelings, offering a comforting guide to help you understand and appreciate your partner’s unique way of showing love.
4. He shares his feelings with you.
When he is upset, you know it and you know why. When he is happy, he tells you. He shares his feelings with you. While he may not gush on and on about them, he lets you in.
5. He makes plans to spend time with you.
You don’t have to initiate every date and hang out. Instead, he makes plans or asks you to do things, and considers your opinions and needs when doing so. And he is understanding when you need space.
6. He makes comments about your future together.
When he talks, you hear him mention plans or things he wants to do in the future. He considers you a part of his future, even if he doesn’t directly say it.
7. He checks on you.
From time to time, he checks in for no reason. Not because he wants anything, or is just trying to appease you, but because he genuinely wants to know how you are and how you are doing.
8. He is considerate about your feelings.
When you explain how you feel, he is considerate about how you feel. He doesn’t run over you or disrespect you.
9. He brags about you to his friends and family.
You hear him talking to his friends and family about you, and saying nice things. And when you meet new friends and family, they say “He’s told you so much about you! I’m so excited to meet you!”
10. He remembers the small things.
He goes out of his way to do small things for you and remembers the things you like, even small things that you wouldn’t think he would remember. He makes it a point to do things that make you happy.
For a deeper connection in your relationship, “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” by Gary Chapman is like a heartfelt conversation that reveals the secret to lasting love. Chapman’s insights feel like he’s right there with you, helping you discover the key to understanding and nurturing your partner’s emotional needs, making every moment together more meaningful.
11. He is vulnerable with you.
When he is around you, he isn’t afraid to be vulnerable. He opens up about his feelings, his past, and what he wants in the future.
12. He considers your opinion.
Before he makes any major decisions or makes other plans, he asks you how you feel. At times, it’s as though he just knows how you feel and is in tune with you.