We get told a lot of different things throughout the years especially regarding our relationships and those of others but not all of those things should be taken to heart. While some of the advice we are given is worth taking some of it comes from myths that should have died off many years back.
Below I am going to go over some of the more common relationship myths that for some reason are still shared and pushed in current times. While it doesn’t hurt to think of things in these ways from time to time, if you rely on them too much they can actually ruin what connections you have with those closest to you. Love isn’t ever as simple as anyone makes it out to be, it’s one of the most complicated things we have to experience in this life.
12 Relationship Myths You’ve Probably Heard A Million Times:
1. Going to bed angry should never happen.
While we should try not to go to bed angry, we shouldn’t go out of our way to ensure it never happens. Sometimes life is just going too fast and we need our rest. If it’s already midnight and you’ve been arguing for hours all the while still needing to be up for work at seven AM, go ahead and get some sleep. You will feel much better having at least given yourself that.
2. If things are meant to be they will work out.
Just because something is meant to be doesn’t mean you don’t have to put an effort forth for it to work. You can’t just sit back and let life happen, you have to do your best to ensure things go properly. If you want to be with someone you have to make sure they know how you feel, otherwise you might miss your chance.
3. You should try your best to please your partner, especially in the beginning.
While you should get along properly you shouldn’t have to change who you are from the getgo to have everything going over smoothly. You should be yourself and speak freely no matter what. If you are fake to begin with how are things ever going to actually work?
4. Opposites always attract.
Opposites do not always attract. Sometimes the best relationships are the ones that come from being with someone we have a lot in common with. Having things in common doesn’t mean you should not be with someone.
5. Good relationships are easy.
No relationship will ever be easy. Relationships of all kinds will always have their problems. You have to be willing to work through the issues that come forth otherwise things will never work.
6. Having intercourse regularly will keep someone from cheating.
Just because you are physically intimate doesn’t mean someone is going to remain faithful to you. You can’t just expect things to work out from being physical alone. Being cheated on is never fun and should never be tolerated but you can’t assume that this myth will be enough to make everything okay.
Happy couples argue just like everyone else. You can be having the best relationship of your life and still argue from time to time. As long as things are not overly negative and bringing you down, you should not be too alarmed.
8. Everyone should get married.
Some people just aren’t interested in getting married and that is perfectly fine. You don’t have to get married to be in love, the two things don’t have to go hand in hand. Sometimes people are just happy being with one another and there is nothing wrong with that.
9. If your partner loves you he or she will know what you need.
When you’re with someone who loves you they might know a lot about you but that doesn’t mean they are going to know everything you need in the moment you need it or how you’re feeling. Your partner cannot read your mind, you have to stop and talk to one another from time to time.
10. Starting a family will fix things.
Just because you have kids together doesn’t make the problems you’re facing any less real. You can’t fix problems by creating life, it just doesn’t happen like that. Please think this kind of thing through before diving into it.
People can and do change all the time. That having been said, you cannot change people, they have to want to change for themselves. They have to be the ones creating the change, you cannot force it to happen.
You can love more than one person in life. Just because you fall for someone and live through life with them does not mean you cannot find love again when they pass on or when the flame dies out. Love is not as simple and closed off as most assume it is.