While everyone makes mistakes cheating is something that can truly ruin a relationship. Sure, in some cases it can be forgiven and moved past but not in most.
When you catch your partner cheating there are several things you need to consider before deciding to make things work or to break things off completely. Below I am going to go over some of the reasons why you should not stay with a cheater and reasons that would make that cheater someone who would likely cheat again. Of course, some cheaters do change and feel bad about the things they have done not all are willing to commit to the words they speak.
12 Reasons Why You Should End Things If Your Partner Is Cheating:
1. Your partner is not sorry and you can feel it.
If your partner doesn’t actually feel bad about the things he or she has done why waste your own time? They’re just going to do it again and hope they don’t get caught the next time around. This is a cycle you need to break.
2. Emotionally and physically this is taking too much of a toll on you.
If being with this person, after all, is said and done is taking a toll on your mental or physical health you need to leave them. They are not worth putting yourself at risk in this manner. Put yourself first and cut ties if you feel that is what you need to do.
3. You deserve better, period.
You deserve someone who isn’t cheating and won’t cheat. You deserve someone who loves and respects you enough to never consider doing that to you. You’re amazing and you can and will find someone who would never do that to you.
4. You cannot move on from the fact that he/she cheated.
If you’re unable to move on from the fact that he or she cheated then you need to go ahead and do what is best for you. Sometimes cutting ties is your best option and you need to know that. Always keep your own well-being in mind. Don’t let your mental health suffer because of this kind of thing.
5. It wasn’t just physical cheating but also emotional.
When someone cheats physically it isn’t as painful as them cheating emotionally but when they do both sometimes there is no going back. It really takes a toll on you when you learn that your partner is basically in a whole other relationship with someone else. Sometimes forgiving that kind of thing just isn’t possible and you shouldn’t feel bad for feeling that way.
6. He or she is still hiding things from you.
If after all is said and done and your partner is still hiding things from you, you should probably call it quits. You should already know the whole story. Things should not be coming up months down the line.
7. You know your partner does not respect you.
If there is a lack of respect this kind of thing will just continue to happen. The more they refuse to give you that respect the more clear their intentions should be. They are just with you for the wrong reasons and the sooner you realize it the better.
8. He or she refuses to cut contact with the person he or she cheated with.
If your partner won’t cut contact with the person he or she cheated with they are likely not done cheating overall with that person. They are putting that person as more important to them than you and you should just go ahead and cut ties. If you were important they wouldn’t keep opening this wound.
If your partner did not use protection and was willing to put you at risk of contracting some kind of STD he or she is not the one for you. This is a huge sign if a lack of respect and disregard for your well-being. You should never stay with someone who willingly gives you a disease or something else of the sort.
10. It has happened more than just once or twice.
If you’re with someone who is constantly cheating you need to stop wasting your own time. This has happened before and will happen again. The more times you allow him or her to get away with it the more power they will feel they have over you in regards.
Whether you’re having problems or not there is no excuse for cheating. If your partner has cheated on you, that is something they actively chose to do. There is no escaping responsibility.
12. You’re not happy anymore.
If you’re not happy with your partner after all is said and done, don’t stay. You don’t have to be with someone who doesn’t make you happy. You are free to leave if you truly want to find someone else and be happy.