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Narcissists can seem impossible to deal with. No matter how much you may try, negotiating with them is not an option.

Their intention is to do whatever it takes to appease and benefit them, and they will stop at nothing to ‘win’ every argument because, in their mind, they are always right. While they may know that they are wrong, or see their own flaws- they will never own up to them.

So, how do you deal with a narcissist? Check out these 12 comebacks when dealing with a narcissist.

1. NO.

While it may seem too simple to shut them down, a simple and assertive NO shows them you mean business. If they continue to ask, repeat NO.

2. “I am going to decide for myself what is best for me.”

When they are trying to control your actions, and trying to push you into doing what they wish, firmly let them know that you will make the decision for yourself. Do not allow them to take control of your life.

3. “I refuse to entertain this.”

When they start picking an argument or fight with you- shut it down immediately. Tell them you do not wish to tolerate nor entertain such behaviors and walk away.

4. “You need to slow down.”

Oftentimes, narcissists will rush through things to try to catch you in their sticky web of nonsense. Tell them to slow down, or else you cannot understand nor process their actions/words.

5. “You don’t scare me. “

It is their intention to intimidate you in order to manipulate you to bend at their will. Tell them that you are not afraid nor intimidated by their behaviors.

6. “Prove it. “

Narcissists make empty promises constantly, leaving their victim feeling hopeful, yet confused and let down. When they start making these empty promises, tell them you won’t accept them at face value and demand them to prove themselves.

7. Make direct eye contact.

Sometimes, narcissists will have a ‘crazy-eyed’ look when trying to intimidate you. Stare them back in the eyes, and hold your gaze.

8. “Stop changing the subject. We are discussing X, not Y.”

When they try to steer your attention away from the issue at hand, bring them back to reality. This is yet another tactic used to keep you in the position of a victim.

9. “I refuse to make the same mistake twice.”

When they are trying to get you back, after betraying your trust or abusing you- DO NOT LET THEM! Do not fall for their tricks, and don’t fall for the same mistake again.

10. “I am not the one who is in the wrong.”

Don’t let them turn the situation around on you. Oftentimes, they like to throw the argument or any criticism back in your field. Don’t let them.

11. “I am determined and I am sticking with my stance- you will not change my mind.”

Do not let them control how you feel about any situation, or any opinions you may have. While they may believe you should share the same values and opinions as you at all times, you need to remain determined to preserve your identity.

12. “I only know what I see.”

Narcissists will use their words to make you think they are doing good, or have good intentions. Let them know their actions speak louder than their words.

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