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Having great sex, laughing together, and having fun together are all wonderful parts of a relationship, but nothing is more important than respect. Respect is fundamental because even with everything else present, if one or both partners constantly disrespect the other, everything else will fall apart.

It’s important to understand what disrespect is because if the relationship is going to stand a chance, disrespect needs to be faced head-on. In some cases, if the disrespectful parties are willing to work on themselves, there is hope for the relationship to survive. In cases where the disrespectful partners refuse to see the fault in their actions, it is likely best to walk away, unless you want to spend the rest of the relationship resenting them.

Here are 11 signs that your partner does not respect you.

1. They don’t value your time.

Your partner is always asking you to do things for them but never does anything for you when it comes time. They are quick to ask you to do what they want, but when you want to do something that is of value to you, they quickly shut you down. This is a sign that your partner does not value your time and if they do not value your time, they do not respect you.

2. They refuse to apologize.

When your partner does you wrong, they never acknowledge their mistakes. While everyone makes mistakes, it is massively disrespectful to refuse to acknowledge those mistakes and apologize.

3. They never consider your feelings.

If your partner does not consider your feelings, they do not respect you. For example, if you have told your partner a million times that you do not like when they do something, and they continue to do it- they are disregarding your feelings.

4. They lie to you.

Lying is a major sign of disrespect. Everyone tells a white lie here and there, that much is true. However, if your partner constantly lies to you, they don’t respect you.

5. They condescend.

Having a condescending partner is very frustrating. If you find that your partner is always tearing you down, belittling you, and treating you as though you are beneath them, this is a terrible sign.

6. They don’t care about what is important to them.

While your partner doesn’t have to necessarily be engaged in every hobby or interest you have, they should at least care and be supportive. When your partner is unsupportive of what is important to you, it can make you feel very overlooked. This is a huge sign of disrespect.

7. They are rude to the people you love.

The people you love are important to you. They should be important to your partner as well, even if they do not see eye to eye. If your partner continues to disrespect your loved ones, let them go.

8. They openly flirt with others in front of you.

Everyone flirts from time to time, but when your partner outright flirts with other people, it’s a major sign of disrespect. At the end of the day, when you choose to be in a relationship with someone, you choose them. Entertaining others is just flat-out rude.

9. They trample your boundaries.

Boundaries are the limits we set with others. When you put these limits in place, and your partner disrespects them and continues to trample over your boundaries, this is a sign that they do not care how you feel.

10. They call you names.

There will be times when your partner will disagree with you, there is no way to avoid that. But, when disagreements result in name-calling, this is a major red flag.

11. They stonewall you.

Stonewalling is a form of emotional abuse that happens when you are trying to discuss something, but your partner does not want to hear what you have to say. They do not want to consider your thoughts or how you feel, so they shut down.