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Have you ever dealt with a cruel person, someone who was so mean they infuriated you, leading you to want to lash out? Don’t do that, instead, go about things skillfully, and you’ll likely shut them down, just like they need to be.

The best thing to do when dealing with a mean person is to be kind. My mother always said, kill them with kindness. Another wise man I knew said, “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,” and honestly they are right. Here are 10 comebacks for mean people.

1. You must be having a bad day.

This one makes them think, and if they aren’t a horrible person, they will realize that they need to chill out. Additionally, it shows empathy, which they are honestly lacking, but need. The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t” by Robert I. Sutton offers insightful strategies for maintaining your composure and dignity in environments dominated by difficult people, focusing on creating a positive workspace.

2. Wow, you really must be miserable.

While this one is snarky, it puts their attention back on their feelings. At worst, it will make them shut down.

3. Hmm, I’ll consider that, but let’s not talk now.

This is a respectful way to say you are done. And additionally, it shows respect and boundaries.

4. I don’t want to continue with this.

This one will shut them down. And it also asserts firm boundaries, which are needed.

5. Have a nice day.

Like I said, kill them with kindness. Sometimes, the only thing you can do is wish someone well. For those seeking to improve their reaction to negativity and cultivate a kinder approach, The Kindness Method: Change Your Habits for Good Using Self-Compassion and Understanding” by Shahroo Izadi provides a refreshing perspective on self-improvement through kindness towards oneself and others.

6. Oh, thanks.

This is my favorite because it says ‘Alright I am done playing games, thanks for your time.”

7. Why so negative?

Why not draw attention back to their bad behavior? Perhaps they need a little shaming, and to recognize that their bad behavior is noted.

8. I don’t appreciate you talking to me like that.

When all else fails, call them out, in a nice way. Letting them know you don’t appreciate how rude they are will make them think twice. Understanding the psychological underpinnings of difficult behavior can empower you to respond more effectively. Difficult Personalities: A Practical Guide to Managing the Hurtful Behavior of Others (and Maybe Your Own)” by Helen McGrath and Hazel Edwards delves into various personality types and offers practical advice for dealing with challenging individuals.

9. Your opinion is duly noted.

Sometimes a mean person just needs to see that their frame of mind is just that, their perspective. They may not realize how rude they are, but if they do, at least they note that you stand by your boundaries.

10. Laugh.

My absolute favorite, just laugh. What can they say to that? And then walk away.