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Many people despise the thought of spending time alone, out of fear of boredom or loneliness. But, not all people fear being alone-actually, some people love spending time by themselves.

If you are not one of those people, it might be hard for you to wrap your mind around. I have always enjoyed spending time by myself. There is just something about taking time to unwind, do whatever you want to do, and focus on self-care. Even better, you never have to worry about drama, because you are spending time alone. Of course, there are other elements involved with why spending time alone is so amazing, and I will cover them below.

Here are 10 things only people who enjoy spending time alone will understand.

1. Cancelling plans with friends to spend time alone.

If you are someone who enjoys your time alone, then it’s also highly likely that you’ve flaked out on plans because you wanted time to yourself. In many cases, you may claim to be busy, when in reality-you simply want to veg out on the couch after a long day with snacks and wine.

2. Having zero things to worry about.

When you are alone, you don’t have to worry about compromising with others. You can pick whatever show you want to watch, or whatever activity is on your heart. You can tackle all the projects that you’ve been planning on, and you don’t have to worry that your needs will go unmet.

3. Doing whatever the hell you want.

There’s nothing better than stripping down to nothing, sitting around on the couch, and eating an entire package of Oreos. Okay, maybe that isn’t your cup of tea. If it’s not- if you enjoy spending time alone, then you already know how amazing it is to do whatever the hell you want.

4. The soothing sound of sweet, sweet silence.

After a stressful day of work, chores, errands, and everything in between, silence can be super beneficial to bring you back to a place of equilibrium. While some may opt to go out with friends, others, like me, prefer that sweet, sweet sound of silence.

5. Feeling drained by clingy people.

Some people prefer to be around extroverts or people who want to spend time together constantly. However, I am not one of them. Being around a clingy friend or partner is simply not my thing, and I am sure that a lot of introverts likely know exactly what I mean. I have run away from someone on foot at a party because they followed me around for three straight hours asking me questions like, “What’s your favorite color?” I wanted to continue conversating and being nice, but honestly, it drained the hell out of me.

6. Requiring a partner that respects your need for space.

A prerequisite of dating someone is that they have to need time alone too. If they can’t understand my need for space and time to myself, it just isn’t going to work.

7. Preferring small groups to large groups.

Don’t get me wrong, though. Just because I enjoy time alone does not mean that I don’t enjoy people. On the contrary, I love my friends and family. However, I much prefer a small group over a large one.

8. Needing to decompress after group activities.

After a larger group activity, like a party, family reunion, massive holiday dinner, or anything along those lines, I need to decompress. Typically, after a day with a large group, I opt for a day to myself.

9. Spending much time in your mind.

When you spend a lot of time alone, you get a lot of time to think. Oftentimes, people who are loners are more intuitive, because they have more time to fine-tune their intuition. Additionally, you are likely more observant too, because you don’t feel the need to fill every gap of silence with words. You are okay sitting back and just people-watching.

10. Preferring a few drinks alone to partying at the bar.

While it’s fun to drink with friends, I would much prefer sipping a few glasses of wine in the evening while watching my favorite show. It’s also nice to sip some wine while taking a bubble bath and unwinding, alone. To be quite honest, I’d rather have a few glasses of wine at home than get drunk at a bar with a huge group of people.