While we do not often realize it, jealousy is something that can drive a wedge between even the strongest of friends. Regardless of your connection to someone, jealousy can ruin things quickly.
Jealousy is something that we in this day and age cannot completely avoid, but the more aware we are of it, the more we can work to combat it and deal with it properly. While sometimes cutting ties with jealous people is the right thing to do, some situations can be talked out and worked through properly. It all depends on what the two of you are facing as a whole.
Below I am going to go over some of the signs of jealousy so that you know what to look for and from there break down how to deal with jealousy in others. When someone is jealous of us, we need to look at the why before we make a decision on how to deal with things. No two jealous people are exactly the same.
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10 Signs Someone Is Jealous Of You:
1. They act as if they cannot stand you.
While you’ve never done anything to hurt them, these people act like you’re constantly stepping on their toes. They treat you like you don’t belong in their circle, and they’re always trying to act like you don’t matter. They really cannot seem to stand you, but they want to keep up with what you’re doing for one reason or another.
2. They do not want to see you doing well.
When you’re doing well, they seem on edge. They want to see you doing badly in life. They do not like to see you getting praise and things of the sort, even if you deserve it.
3. They talk badly about you behind your back.
These kinds of people are often quick to talk badly about you. They dish out all your secrets and turn other people against you. They are the kinds of people who love to start rumors to feed into their narrative.
4. They seemingly enjoy seeing you fail.
While they might pretend to make you feel better overall, they’re just trying to make you feel worse through their words. It’s like they want to see you fail because, well, they do. They don’t like seeing you accomplish things they haven’t.
5. They go out of their way to try and intimidate you.
They love intimidating you and will pop up out of nowhere to do-so. They will disappear for weeks only to show back up on a big day. This is their means of trying to get things over on you and bring you down.
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6. They turn everything into a competition with you.
When you accomplish something, they always feel the need to outdo you. They don’t like to see you being praised, as noted above. The harder you work the more they feel they need to do better than you as a whole.
7. They’re always spoiling your fun and talking down to you.
When you’re doing well, they want to make you feel bad. They downplay everything you do and try their hardest to make you feel insignificant. This is not something you should ever put up with.
8. Any and all compliments they offer you are fake/false.
Sure, from time to time they may compliment you, but those compliments are like a double-edged sword. They say something but mean another. They’re only saying anything at all to try and get under your skin.
9. They’re constantly bragging.
When they accomplish something, they come quickly to rub it in your face. The more they do, the more they feel like they need to rub it in your face. Nothing you do ever seems to match up, and even the smallest thing they feel needs to be shoved down your throat.
10. You can tell that they don’t like you, even if they pretend that they do.
While they might pretend to like you and put on a nice face in front of others, you know they dislike or even hate you. Sure, they might have no reason to, but the negativity is quite present. There is nothing you can do to really make it go away, in most situations.
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How To Deal With Jealous People
Now, when it comes to jealous people cutting them out is often what we have to do, but sometimes you can sit down and talk through the issue at hand with them. This all depends on your connection and where things are as a whole. That being said, you shouldn’t feel like you owe them any kind of explanation overall. If you want to cut them out, then go for it.
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To learn more about how to deal with jealous people, take a look at the video below. It will help you better understand things as a whole and really break them down. Jealousy is not something you have to put up with, keep that in mind.