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One of the worst feelings in the entire world is being cheated on. It’s something that no one should ever have to experience, but unfortunately, the fact of the matter is that it happens.

I would like to preface this article with a disclaimer: if you are with someone, and you consider them to be your soulmate, if you start to pick up on signs that they could be straying away, it’s a good time, to be honest with yourself. Because of how much you love them, it can be easy to overlook what is happening. But, to do so will only do more harm than good. Instead of pretending like it’s not happening, read over the following signs and use them to help you determine (in an unbiased way) if you are on the right track in your premonitions.

Then, decide to do what is best for you and your situation. In some cases, the relationship can be saved, but in others, it has run its course. Because we can have multiple soulmates in our lives, there are times when we outgrow people and vice versa. It doesn’t make the pain of the experience any better right now, but it’s something to keep in mind.

Here are 10 signs that your soulmate is looking for someone else.

1. They barely ever make intimate contact with you.

When you go in for a hug or a kiss, if your partner pulls away, it’s not a good sign. Yes, it could be that they just don’t feel good, or whatever, but if it’s happening regularly alongside other signs, you could have a real problem on your hands.

2. When you bring up the future, they brush it off.

Whenever you bring up the future, they change the subject or brush it off. In the past, they talked about having a future with you, and now it is apparent that they are uncertain about what they want from the relationship.

3. They no longer want to put a label on the relationship.

If it felt like things were moving along in the right direction, but your partner side steps and decides they don’t want to label the relationship, it’s likely they are reconsidering. This is a sign that is worth looking into and bringing up, even if it doesn’t coincide with any other sign. Especially, if you were under the influence that the connection was supposed to be a relationship.

4. They have completely changed.

Out of nowhere, all of their habits have changed. Suddenly, they seem like an entirely different person than you no longer know. Alone, this sign could just mean they are evolving – but when this sign co-exists with other signs, especially if they are spending more time with someone else, be wary.

5. Something just feels off.

it might sound a little woo-woo, but hear me out. We have instincts for a reason. And if your gut is telling you something is off, listen to it!

6. They don’t want to spend time with you.

When you try to spend time with them, they brush you off. It feels like they don’t want to be around you at all.

7. They constantly pick fights.

If your partner is picking fights with you all the time, likely, they are either unhappy, or they are trying to find a way out. This is especially so if they are picking fights and then leaving.

8. Everything feels surface level.

While things once felt deep, conversations, the connection, and everything else, now it feels like they want to stay on the surface. They have distanced themselves from you and the connection and overall, you can sense them pulling away.

9. They act weird about their phone.

You’ve noticed they spend a lot of time on their phone. Even stranger, you may have noticed they changed the code, or take their phone wherever they go. Additionally, if you notice them hiding their screen, it’s a sign that they don’t want you to know what they are up to.

10. They are paying someone else a lot of attention.

This is perhaps the biggest red flag. If your partner is spending a lot of time with another person (who fits the bill of someone they could be attracted to) and you find that they are spending more time with them than they are with you, it’s a bad sign.