Most of us enter into relationships because we believe they will make us happier, but unfortunately, there are cases in which being in a relationship does the exact opposite. In these cases, there is a choice to be made, but you have to understand what is happening first.
Being in the wrong relationship can change your life. It can turn your entire world upside down and it can even change how you view love moving forward. For the most part, after you’ve been in a bad relationship (especially a toxic one) you aren’t the same person anymore. If you are here because you believe your relationship is making you depressed, then it’s likely you already realize that the situation you are in is not working. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth saving. Only you can determine that.
Here are 10 signs your relationship is making you depressed.
1. You feel like nothing you do is ever good enough.
It’s a really painful situation to be in when nothing you do ever feels like enough. No matter how much you try or what you do differently when your partner always can find something wrong it will wear on you. And the thing is, nothing will likely ever be good enough, because their issue isn’t with you, it’s with themselves.
2. You try to get away from your partner a lot.
You are always trying to find ways to get away, whether it’s a girl’s day or extra time at work, you cannot get away from your partner enough. And it isn’t because you just need space, it’s more so because of them.
3. Your partner drains you.
After spending time with your partner, you don’t feel excited or energized, or even happy. Instead, you find that you end up feeling drained and exhausted. It’s like the energy has been zapped right from your body.
4. Your partner is abusive.
First and foremost, if your partner is abusing you, please get away from them. No matter what, no one deserves that. But, being abused will destroy your mental well-being, and the longer you are being abused, the bigger of an impact it will leave.
5. The relationship is one-sided.
The relationship feels one-sided, and the burden of the load is always on your shoulder. Sure, people struggle sometimes and the slack needs to be picked up by the other partner. But, when you are always picking up your partner’s slack and are always the one putting forth the effort, it gets old real fast.
6. Your partner is ‘always right.’
Let me tell you, there is nothing more frustrating than dealing with someone who never admits they are wrong. I know that most of us do have a personal bias. We want to believe that we are right, but the older you get, the more you realize that just because you believe you are right does not make you right. And learning how to say “I’m sorry” and mean it is a necessary life skill.
7. Your partner is controlling.
Being with a controlling partner is no stroll in the park. As human beings, we have our own free will, and being told what we can and cannot do, and treated as though we cannot be trusted is hurtful.
8. You aren’t yourself anymore.
After a while, a bad relationship will begin to wear on you and you will start to feel like you are losing yourself. You may rationalize setting your boundaries to the side for a little while, but after a bit, you will begin to question where your true self has gone. When this happens, it’s time for a change.
9. You feel disconnected from them.
There will be times in which you will feel disconnected from your partner. However, when this becomes the constant energy of the relationship (butting heads and feeling disconnected) it can leave you feeling empty and wondering what’s the point.
10. You don’t feel like a team.
If you aren’t in a team in your relationship, then you are fighting in a war. Everything begins to feel like a battle. And honestly, it can make you dread being around your partner at all.