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Sadly, there are people in this world who get into relationships with some of the worst intentions. Being taken advantage of is something that happens far too often and even if you don’t think it will happen to you, it can.

We tend to allow people who don’t want to be with us for the right reasons, to stick around far longer than we should. If your partner doesn’t love, support, care for, or appreciate you then they do not deserve you. While letting go isn’t easy, knowing that you should is a step in the right direction.

Below I am going to go over some of the signs that your significant other doesn’t want to be with you because they love you but more-so because they want something from you. When these signs are present in your relationship you should cut your losses and move on. You deserve so much more than you realize and you should never settle in life or in love.

10 Signs Your Partner Is Not With You For The Right Reasons:

1. They ignore your feelings/emotions.

If your partner doesn’t care how you feel then that should tell you right off the bat that he or she doesn’t care about you much at all either. Someone who wants to be with you for the right reasons will care whether or not you’re happy. They will want to build you up rather than tear you down.

2. They are very selfish.

If your partner doesn’t think of you much at all and is always taking without giving then you’re not with the right person for you. You deserve someone who is going to be willing to take your needs into consideration. You can both have what you want without having to compromise on the others if things are talked through properly. You should never be with someone who is constantly giving you the ‘if you love me you will do this’ kind of ultimatums.

3. They don’t own up to their mistakes.

If the person you’re dating is always acting as if they do no wrong but calling you out on your mistakes you shouldn’t waste your time with them. We all make mistakes and there is no changing that. No one on this planet is perfect. If this person really cared they would own up and apologize for their wrongdoings, point-blank.

4. They are always saying one thing and doing another.

People who really love being with us are not going to be lying to us. They are going to be open and honest all the time with no exceptions. If your partner says one thing and does another it’s because they don’t value you in the right ways. The way they make you feel doesn’t matter to them.

5. They refuse to put any effort into the relationship.

Relationships are about giving and taking not just giving. If you’re doing the most for your partner without them being willing to even meet you halfway you are being used. You deserve so much better, and you need to realize that.

6. They are constantly blaming you for things that you have no control over.

If you cannot control something you definitely shouldn’t be getting the blame for it. Dating people who are always aggressive and lashing out is not the way to go. Your partner should not be allowed to use you as an emotional punching bag.

7. They do not respect your boundaries.

If your partner does not respect your boundaries then they also don’t respect you in general. You should be more than welcome to set your own limits and boundaries without them being questioned. Someone who is with you for the right reasons will be more than glad to make sure to comply properly.

8. You are walking on eggshells around them.

You should feel comfortable and safe with your partner. They should not leave you feeling on edge or thrown through the gutters. The more of a train wreck they turn you into the more clear it is that they are not a good fit for you.

9. They are always asking you to do things for them.

If you’re constantly doing things for your partner, but they’re never doing things for you or not around when you need them you should take it as a red flag and jump ship. You are not a maid and you should not be treated as one. Again, you deserve the effort you put forth back, don’t allow anyone to tell you otherwise.

10. They make you feel crazy.

A lot of the time those who want to manipulate us will work to make us feel like we’re the ones in the wrong or we’re ‘crazy.’ Pay close attention to the things that your partner is saying and doing if things aren’t adding up and other things on this list are present you’re not with the right person. You should never let anyone play with your mind.

To learn more about manipulation and go over some of the more common forms please feel free to check out the video below. This world is full of people who want to use us and it is up to us to be able to weed those kinds out. You will find someone who is worthy of your time when all is said and done, don’t give up.