I have always thought that if someone was a narcissist, that they inherently knew it on some level. However, experts disagree, saying that most narcissists have a highly inflated sense of self, so much so that they are unable to picture themselves as the villain.
Even stranger is that upon some extensive research, I stumbled upon several things that I know narcissists are known for, but I have never really thought about a lot. And with that, I would assume that these traits, while intrinsically narcissistic, could seem harmless enough to someone who excused themselves for anything.
1. Are you self-righteous?
When someone comes to you with a problem, one that is in your eyes unthinkable, do you believe you are superior to them? Narcissists believe themselves to be superior to all, and even when they mean to be harmless, their self-righteous behavior gives them away.
When you walk into a room, do you have to have the attention of everyone around you? If you feel as though your voice needs to be heard by all, and that the attention and focus of everyone should be on you – you are probably a narcissist.
3. Do you give unsolicited advice?
Oftentimes, narcissists consider themselves to be quite wise. While no one is asking for their advice, they will often give it. I mean, they do know everything, right?
4. You need validation.
The narcissist thrives off of constant admiration and compliments to bring their mind to ease because deep down beneath their grandiose facade they have very low self-esteem.
5. They are perfectionists of the worst kind.
If you are a grandiose narcissist, then you may likely be known for your perfectionism. And not only do they expect the best for themselves, but they also expect you to meet their expectations as well.
6. You can’t ever see when you are wrong.
If you are denying this, you are probably a narcissist. Narcissists cannot take criticism and hate being told that they could ever perceive anything the wrong way.
7. Do you have boundaries?
If you don’t recognize that other people have boundaries, and often find people telling you that you need to give them space, you may be a narcissist. “Narcissists also manipulate situations and violate boundaries, so trust becomes an issue,” says Hershenson. “Communication and trust are two of the most important traits in a healthy relationship, and with a narcissist, it is nearly impossible.”
8. You take advantage of others.
If you intentionally use people for things, or to be able to go places or get to a better place in life, and you continuously do this to people – you are a narcissist. Narcissists see people as pieces or peasants that are merely there to serve them.
9. You don’t have a lot of empathy.
Narcissists lack empathy and often find it difficult to understand where someone is coming from. They may be unable to understand that they have hurt someone or even done them wrong when it’s completely obvious.
People who constantly love to entertain, make jokes, or act out to get attention are usually narcissistic in some way or another. They love the attention and will stop at nothing to get it.