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When you are in a relationship with someone who goes out of their way to ruin your day, you need to get out. You deserve so much more than that.

While we can all be a bit selfish from time to time, when you are in a relationship you have to be a little more selfless. If your significant other is doing the following things, he or she does not truly care about you. They only want you in their life for the convenience, and as I mentioned above, YOU DESERVE BETTER!

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10 Signs Your Significant Other is Far Too Selfish For The Relationship to Flourish:

1. They are far more stubborn than anyone else.

They are all about taking and not about giving at all. When it comes to doing things for you, they are very stuck in their ways. You give and they only take.

2. They are only sweet when they want something.

They are nice when they want something and rude most of the time. When it comes to convincing you to do something, you don’t want to do, they always try to pull out the charm. Nothing keeps them from getting what they want.

3. They refuse to open up.

They are always closed off and refuse to let you in. You never see the vulnerable sides of them that they should be sharing. That being said, they also avoid you when you are down in the dumps.

4. They refuse to commit.

They either refuse to give you a label or they refuse to actually be faithful to you. This is damning for the relationship and should be seen as a HUGE red flag. Why would you be with someone who won’t give you the relationship you deserve?

5. They never cancel plans, even when you really need them.

They are always making you cancel your plans but refuse to budge with theirs. You are always bending to their will and when they actually have to change plans they make you feel bad about it. It is like when they need you, you are there, but when you need them they are never there.

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6. They do not compromise.

They do not budge. When you are in an argument, either you give up or nothing gets resolves. As I said above, you are always giving and this person is always taking.

7. They are always making excuses.

They never own up to their mistakes. You can call them out, and they will still come up with some sly excuse. Nothing is ever their fault.

8. They act as if you should always put their needs first.

They want you to put their needs above their own. This is a huge issue in a lot of relationships. Both people should be equally important. Everyone’s needs should be met.

9. They rarely ever apologize.

They never feel bad for hurting you, so they do not say sorry. You can beg and beg and beg for an apology, and when you finally get one it will be insincere. People like this do not often change.

10. When they have upset you, they act like it is your fault.

When you need them to comfort you and make things better, they never do. You can try so hard for them and they will still take advantage of you. You are never good enough for them and to be honest they are never going to change their minds.

In the face of such challenges, “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” by Lundy Bancroft could offer critical insights into understanding and handling a partner’s selfish behavior.

Don’t let your partner take advantage of you. You deserve someone who will love you and care for you. No one should have to be put through so much pain, YOU MATTER.