When you’re in a relationship you expect your partner to be on the same page as you, but that’s not always what you end up with. Sometimes we find ourselves dating people who are in many ways disconnected from the relationship itself.
When we find ourselves dating people who are disconnected from the relationship itself we are in what many refer to as a one-sided relationship. This meaning that you’re putting your all into it and your partner is basically just there, not providing any support or efforts on his/her side of things. You’re trying your hardest to make things work and doing all you can to create a healthy relationship while your partner is undermining your efforts drastically.
This kind of relationship is stressful, painful, and hard to deal with for a lot of different reasons. If you find that this is what you’re stuck in, getting out is your best option. One-sided relationships are not worth our time, and we shouldn’t be dwelling on them.
Below I am going to go over some signs that might help you decide if you’re in a one-sided relationship or if you’re just stuck in a connection that’s hit a hard spot. If all of these signs are present, your partner has already checked out, and perhaps you should be doing the same. You deserve the efforts you put forth and should never settle for someone who refuses to make you feel loved and cared for.
10 Signs You’re In A One-Sided Relationship:
1. You can’t share your true feelings with your partner.
When you’re with your partner you have to filter yourself to keep him or her happy. You’re not able to show them how you’re really feeling because you don’t want to upset them. When we’re in one-sided relationships that mutual vulnerable understanding isn’t present like it should be.
2. You’re always overthinking the things your partner does.
Whenever your partner does something because you’re so disconnected from one another you’re unable to figure out his or her motives. It’s as if you’re concerned about whether things will end on a daily basis, and it’s tearing you apart. You find yourself constantly overthinking in this regard.
3. Your partner never schedules things around you, it’s always the opposite.
Your partner is not the kind of person to schedule things that work for both of you. You have to fit your schedule into his or hers instead of just talking things out and planning them properly. This can create a lot of tension and will persist no matter how hard you try to combat it.
4. You don’t feel secure in the relationship, at all.
When you’re in a one-sided relationship you don’t feel secure. You feel as though your partner could and might up and end things in the blink of an eye. It’s like even the smallest issue could send him or her over the edge.
5. You find yourself apologizing even when you don’t need to.
Your partner is always turning things around and making you out to be a bad person. You are constantly apologizing to him or her just to make them happy. This because you don’t want to set them off or have them feel as if they’re not being cared for when actually you’re the one not being cared for.
6. Taking things to the next level seems impossible no matter how much you try.
When you’re in a one-sided relationship your partner will hide a lot from you and be quite distant overall. You might try very hard to get him/her to open up or even make an effort to bring things to a more serious place, but your partner will shut it down. Either things stay as they are or you both move on and that’s just not fair.
7. You feel like you can’t leave because of how much you’ve put forth.
Your partner makes you feel like you’ve done so much that leaving isn’t an option. You’ve invested all of your time, money, and efforts into this connection, and you feel attached and ready to make things work. That having been said, they’re not changing, and it’s leaving you quite disappointed.
When you’re in a one-sided relationship feeling drained by your partner is quite common. He or she is using you and taking advantage of all you’re offering. They want to have the cake, eat it and then make you create a new one all the while and that’s just not realistic.
9. You’re always walking on eggshells when your partner is around.
When you’re with your partner you are always trying your best not to upset him or her. You’re on edge and trying to make him or her happy to an extent that is bringing you down. You do not deserve this, period.
You’re the one putting forth all the effort, and you’re the one making things work even if they’re not really that functional. Your partner couldn’t care less whether you were by his or her side or not. Understanding this can hurt big time.