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We often look at having a healthy relationship as being the holy grail, so when we see others who are single, we tend to feel sorry for them, or we may even wonder *why* they are single. However, not all people who are single are single and looking, instead, there are many that prefer being single.

While this may be baffling to some, there are actually several very valid reasons why someone would prefer to be single. In fact, some of these are such good reasons, you might be questioning why you *are* in a relationship by the time you finish reading this article.

Here are 10 reasons why someone might prefer being single over a relationship.

1. They want to focus on their career.

While we are told that relationships should be our main focus, this is simply not what everyone wants. While some may want a relationship, others may choose to focus on their career. Of course, you can always circle back to relationships later on down the road, when the time is right.

Imagine having a coffee chat with Sheryl Sandberg as she shares her wisdom in Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. This book is like a career mentor in your pocket, perfect for anyone who’s putting their professional aspirations front and center, just like many happily single folks out there.

2. They don’t want to share their finances.

In relationships, finances tend to become intermingled. For some, this simply will not do. Whether it is to protect themselves or whether it is for personal reasons, some simply don’t care to combine their finances.

3. Bad previous relationships.

When you’ve had back-to-back toxic relationships, it can weigh on you. After many failed attempts, some choose to take a break to recalibrate, while some may opt to be single forever.

Picture curling up with a good book that feels like a conversation with a wise friend who’s been there. Getting Past Your Breakup” by Susan J. Elliott offers just that – a comforting and empowering guide to finding yourself again after a heartbreak, resonating deeply with anyone who’s taking a relationship hiatus to heal.


There is no denying that when you are single, you have more freedom. You can go wherever you want, whenever you want. You don’t have to answer to anyone, and this appeals to some people greatly.

If you’re reveling in your freedom and considering solo adventures, The Art of Solo Travel: A Girls’ Guide” by Stephanie Lee is like your adventurous best friend, encouraging you to explore the world on your own terms. It’s perfect for all the independent souls enjoying the liberating side of single life.

5. No desire to be tied down.

While some crave having a partner, others do not so much. Some people like to keep their options open and date around. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that.

6. Less stress.

Not all relationships are constantly stressful, but at times, all relationships have stressful moments. It is easier sometimes just to focus on yourself and there’s nothing wrong with that.

7. High standards.

The dating pool can be a bit shallow, and while there may be a lot of options, not all of them are going to meet everyone’s standards. With that said, some simply prefer to not settle and have decided to remain single until their person comes along.

Delve into The Sacred Search” by Gary Thomas as if you’re having a heart-to-heart with a thoughtful guide about love and life. This book speaks to those who aren’t willing to settle, reminding you that your high standards in dating are not only valid but valuable.

8. More time for other aspirations.

Some people simply want to lead their own life. They don’t care to worry about relationships but instead choose to spend time with family, travel, or pursue other goals.

9. Prefer to live alone.

If you’ve ever lived with a partner, then you already know it’s not easy to live with other people, even if you love them. And while some may be okay with making it work, not everyone wants to share their home.

10. Commitment issues.

In some cases, people remain single because they realize they have commitment issues. They recognize this about themselves and instead of trying to date around, they have decided to be open and honest about the fact that they are not ready to commit.