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Many of us have been there: everything is going great, the connection seems spot on, and then seemingly out of nowhere, something has gone awry. While none of us plan for our relationship to fail, sadly, sometimes things can get off track.

When this happens, we can go one of two ways: either work on the relationship to see if the hurdle is something we can overcome, or decide to part ways. Ultimately, how you handle this information is between you and your partner.

With that in mind, no one wants their partner to lose interest. However, it does happen. If you are beginning to get the sinking feeling that your partner is losing interest, be careful to look out for these signs.

1. He doesn’t initiate contact.

If you are the one who is always calling or texting him, and barely ever receive a text from him unless you send one first, this is a bad sign. Or, if he takes hours upon hours to text or calls you back when you’ve reached out, and he doesn’t bother to say why this could indicate he’s lost interest.

2. He gets rude and defensive.

If you’ve noticed a major attitude change, seemingly out of nowhere, it can be off-putting. Where there once was a man who was sweet and funny, now he’s acting annoyed, defensive, and snappy. While this could mean that he is simply stressed out, it could also mean that he is losing interest.

3. He makes excuses.

When you want to hang out with him, he always has something better to do. And while people do get busy- if he has an excuse for every time you want to talk to him or spend time with him, it could mean he has lost interest.

4. When you are with him, he seems far away.

Oftentimes, even when someone doesn’t say they have lost interest, they show this by becoming less present. At first, he may seem distracted. But, after so long, if you are feeling lonelier in his presence than in his absence, your gut is likely telling you something.

5. He doesn’t discuss the future anymore.

Where there was once discussion about the future ahead, now he makes no mention of it. Instead, he seems intentionally vague about where the connection is going. Unfortunately, this could mean he doesn’t see you in his future any longer.

6. He makes zero effort.

People make time for the people they want to be around. If you are always the one putting in the effort, and he the relationship has become one-sided, this is not good.

7. Physical intimacy changes.

This can happen in one of two ways: either the intimacy will completely drop off, or it’s all the relationship is. It honestly depends on the nature of the relationship and his personality. But, it’s really important to trust your gut on this one.

8. He flirts with other women.

I don’t care what level your relationship is on, if a man is supposed to be invested in you, and you notice him openly flirting with other women in front of you, this is not only disrespectful, but it’s an indication he is no longer interested. Either way, I would say this one is a sign it’s time to talk.

9. He doesn’t want to talk about the relationship.

When you bring up the relationship or ask where it stands, he refuses to talk about it. He doesn’t want to put a label on it, and you feel uncertain. Any relationship that makes you doubt where you stand is likely not to stand at all.

10. He isn’t affectionate anymore.

If he was once affectionate, wanting to snuggle and hug and kiss you, but suddenly he is always pulling away from you, this is a bad sign. While it could mean several things, if it’s tied into the other signs listed here- he’s likely lost interest.