Some people operate on a much deeper level emotionally than others and while there isn’t really anything wrong with that it can feel like a lot. Chances are if you’re one of these people you find others calling you dramatic and sensitive more often than not.
People who are emotionally intense are often much more passionate and empathic than others. They are highly perceptive to the things going on around them and pick up on the smallest things. While this can be a great thing it can also be a bad thing. Those who are emotionally intense are wounded in ways by this world that those who are not emotionally intense will not understand.
With emotional intensity, your emotions are more powerful but that’s your bad emotions as well as your good ones. Sometimes you feel good and bad at the same time and sometimes you’re overwhelmed by something you cannot find a way to move on from. When it comes to these kinds of people abandonment and rejection can do serious damage.
Because you sponge up the feelings of others and seemingly work as an empath, you are often wounding yourself more than you realize. People will tell you time and time again that you’re ‘too much’ but that’s because they do not understand the gift you’ve been given. They are unable to relate to others in the manner that you are.
In regards to emotional intensity Psychology Today wrote as follows:
Emotional Intensity is not a pathology. For someone who is emotionally intense, however, the pain that comes with a pervasive sense of being ‘too much’ is not to be taken lightly – a person can be made to feel ‘wrong’ for the most part of his or her life, and internalizing this sense of shame can lead to depression, low self-esteem, inability to self-regulate, and inner emptiness.
The good news is, with the right information and support, liberation from the pain of ‘being too much’ is possible. Once you have discovered the origin of your differences, you may begin a journey of retrieving long lost gifts.
Suddenly, your whole life history makes sense. You realize that a lot of the shame and depression they bear come from ill-informed and uninvited commentary about your unique qualities, and people’s fear of what is unfamiliar. In fact, your high level of awareness of subtleties is not only unusual but also extremely precious.
As you step into embracing your unique qualities, you learn to trust your unique ways of relating to the world and can connect to what you have to offer. Themes such as authentic existence, the meaning of life, and purpose of being come to the foreground of awareness, and here you are, embarking on a true journey towards your full potential:
The more you work to embrace who you are but also protect and ground yourself the easier things will become for you. While you’re a bit wounded those wounds do not define you and you will grow through experiencing them. For more on emotional intensity please check out the video below.
Sources:
https://www.eggshelltherapy.com/emotional-intensity/