If you have ever been involved with a manipulative person you will agree with these. People in today’s society will too often be taken advantage of for their kindness. If you are experiencing any of these situations, then you are being emotionally abused.
Emotional abuse ranges from severity and intensity. If you are involved in an emotionally abusive relationship then it is likely that you will talk yourself out of agreeing with these things; don’t. If you can relate to any of these then you need to do something about it. It will only get worse, so it is best to deal with it as early as possible. Abusers are good at what they do, so do not get sucked in by their smooth lines or guilt trips. Simply remove yourself from the situation.
Accusations and Blaming
If someone in your family or your significant other is constantly putting a blame on you, then you need to assess the situations. If they are blaming very obviously random life incidents on you, then you need to have a talk.
Blocking and Diverting
If they avoid conversation about serious topics then that is a serious indicator. Very often will manipulative people remove themselves from confrontation and emotional situations. If you somehow manage to get them cornered they will start twisting your words and even more likely to start acting a fool.
Inability to take a joke
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, it is likely that your partner is easily offended and will not laugh at themselves under no circumstances. If you or anyone else says anything degrading about them as a joke, it is instantly personal, and they will hit you where it hurts to get revenge.
They Point Out Flaws
An emotionally abusive partner will constantly point out your flaws and make you feel like less and less of a person. They call you names, give you labels, and commonly talk bad about you to other people behind your back.
They do not show compassion
They tell you to toughen up, or get over it. They will never empathize with you over anything. Your feelings are always less important than theirs.
They make subtle threats
If your partner threatens you over small or subtle things in a jokingly manner, then this is also a key indicator. They may say they will tell all of your secrets if you leave them, or even more commonly, “if you leave me, i’ll die.” This is not your responsibility and you not only have the right to, but should leave as soon as possible.
They Share Your Personal Info
An abusive lover will commonly talk about your personal life with other people. They do this for reassurance that they are better than you are. Do not ever confide in these kinds of people; you will soon regret it.
They Try to Control Finances
Emotionally abusive people will control your money and spend what they please. The moment you treat yourself you are in the wrong however. It is your money, take back control.
They Correct You
If your partner constantly is correcting you this is a sign that they are just trying to make you feel bad about yourself. They use this so that they feel needed. You do not need them.
They’re Always Right
Refusal to be wrong is a major sign. These people will argue with you whether they are obviously wrong or not. They will always deny your argument regardless of factual evidence.