If you are someone who is having issues with your partner as is, getting married might not be the answer you’re looking for. It won’t make everything better and honestly, it might make things worse above all else.
Marriage is, in this day and age, something that doesn’t seem to work as well as it once did, and that happens for a lot of different reasons. You cannot expect a simple piece of paper to make you and your partner get along better, sorry. Throughout the years I have noticed some pretty specific reasons behind the end of marriages and while not everyone is going to fit into these things, many will.
‘The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work’ by John Gottman and Nan Silver: This book felt like a conversation with a wise friend who’s seen it all in marriage. Gottman’s insights are like those little nuggets of wisdom you get from someone who truly understands the ups and downs of married life.
Below, I am going to go over some of the issues that marriage won’t fix and can’t just make better. These are things you have to be aware of so that you can work through them. If you and your partner are not able to work through the things before you, divorce will become inevitable.
Signs Your Marriage Is Headed Towards Divorce:
1. You cannot communicate with one another.
As a couple, if you cannot talk to one another, there is a serious issue present. You’re unable to really work through the problems that come forth. A lot of things go unsaid and without being dealt with.
2. Being unable to process anger properly.
Instead of processing your anger, one of you or both of you are lashing out. Over time, this will get old if not kept in check. The more you hurt one another, the more distant you will become.
3. Boundary issues within the relationship.
Sure, as a couple you might want your boundaries to be respected, but if you don’t enforce them, that might not happen. You have to make sure your partner respects you because if he doesn’t you’re going to be walked all over all the time. You deserve to be comfortable within your connection.
‘Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love‘ by Dr. Sue Johnson: Reading this book was a revelation for me. It delves into how we can create deeper emotional connections with our partners. It’s like having a heart-to-heart chat about love and connection with an expert.
4. Infidelity on either side of the relationship.
If you or your partner are cheating, things will never work. You as a couple need to be there for one another in all ways. If you’re entertaining other lovers, you’re setting things up to fail.
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5. A lack of respect and unwillingness to be honest.
The more dishonest you are with your partner, the harder things will become. You as a couple need to be able to talk to each other. If you cannot come clean, you won’t be a good mix down the road.
‘Not ‘Just Friends’: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity‘ by Shirley P. Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli: The raw and honest approach of this book in addressing infidelity is something I found profoundly impactful. It’s a guiding light for anyone navigating through this tough chapter in their relationship.
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