When it comes to dating, sometimes keeping things how you want them to be can be hard. You forget that your needs and your partner’s needs matter and end up letting one of the two fall through the cracks.
While sometimes the issues we face with the people we love can’t be helped, most of the time they can. If we work to understand one another properly and don’t shut each other out, we will in most cases flourish together. Below I am going to go over some of the best relationship secrets, some of which aren’t exactly that secret. These are things everyone should keep in mind and work to add to their lives if they haven’t already.
9 Relationship Secrets You Need To Know:
1. Don’t hide your vulnerable side.
Be willing to show your partner sides of you that you don’t show to anyone else. This mutual sharing of vulnerabilities will bring the two of you closer than you could ever imagine. While it might be hard at first, if you’re truly comfortable with your partner it will become a quite easy process overall.
2. Make sure everyone is being taken care of properly.
Don’t let your own needs fall behind those of your partner, and don’t let your partner fall through the cracks. Both of you need to be taken care of properly if you want things to work out. If one of you is being neglected, things will never work out properly. Maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship requires effort, understanding, and sometimes a bit of external guidance. “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman offers insightful ways to better communicate and show love to your partner, addressing one of the relationship secrets mentioned about being open and honest.
3. Be open and honest with your partner.
Always be open and honest with one another. You and your partner need to be willing to really share things with each other you wouldn’t with others. The more honest and open you are, the better. Don’t lie to the person you love the most.
4. Never stop loving yourself.
While it might be easy to fall into putting your all into your partner, don’t. Remember that above all else, you need to keep loving yourself. If you’re loving your partner so much that you’re losing sight of who you are, you have a real issue on your hands.
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5. Don’t be afraid to laugh together.
Laughter is important when it comes to romantic relationships or connections in general. Laugh together and really share in the humor. Finding something small like this to do together can really ignite a spark that will not die out quickly. As you and your partner navigate the journey of understanding each other’s needs, incorporating laughter and joy is essential. Consider exploring “Laughter Yoga” by Madan Kataria, a book that introduces a revolutionary method to increase happiness and connection through laughter.
6. Be willing to take and give personal space, period.
We all need personal space, and your lover is no exception to this. Be willing to take time when you need it, and be willing to give it when your lover needs it. We all need a little time to ourselves here and there, and there is nothing wrong with it. Personal space and time are crucial for individual growth, which in turn benefits the relationship. “Wherever You Go, There You Are” by Jon Kabat-Zinn delves into mindfulness meditation as a practice for cultivating personal space mentally, even in shared physical environments.
7. Don’t air your dirty laundry out.
The things happening between you and your partner are between you and your partner, within reason. Of course, if there is something bad going on please tell someone but otherwise keep the drama to yourselves. There is no sense in bringing other people into the mess.
8. Be willing to forgive and be forgiven.
Relationships are a lot of work. You are both going to make mistakes and as a result, need to forgive and be forgiven. Be prepared for this. Saying ‘I’m sorry’ shouldn’t be a big deal.
9. Don’t be too scared to sit down and talk things out when it’s needed.
Be willing to sit down with your partner and talk out the issues that come forth in your connection. If you’re both going through it and unable to talk to one another, things will fizzle out quickly. You’re just not going to be where you need to be with one another. Lastly, when it comes to sitting down and discussing issues, “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg provides strategies for expressing yourself clearly and listening to your partner in a way that fosters understanding and resolution.
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