The end of any relationship can be tough, but ending a relationship with a narcissist is often particularly draining and confusing. Narcissists tend to follow a predictable pattern of behaviors during breakups, often leaving their partners feeling lost and uncertain about what happened. Here are eight common things narcissists do at the end of a relationship:
1. Love Bombing Reignites
Just when you think the relationship is over, the narcissist may try to win you back with excessive affection and attention, similar to how they treated you at the beginning of the relationship. This tactic, known as love bombing, is designed to manipulate your emotions and make you question your decision to leave.
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2. Gaslighting
Narcissists will often twist reality to make you doubt your own experiences, especially at the end of the relationship. They might deny events, feelings, or conversations that happened, making you question your version of reality. This mental manipulation can leave you confused and insecure.
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3. Smear Campaign
A common tactic narcissists use is to spread false or negative information about you to mutual friends or family members. This helps them maintain control over the narrative and makes it harder for you to seek support. They might portray themselves as the victim and you as the aggressor, further isolating you.
4. Silent Treatment
After the narcissist feels they’ve gotten what they wanted or no longer have control, they might completely cut off communication without explanation. This silent treatment can be incredibly painful, as it often leaves you feeling confused and abandoned.
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5. Sudden Reappearance
Once you begin to heal and move on, the narcissist may suddenly reappear in your life, attempting to draw you back in. This reappearance may come with more love bombing, promises of change, or attempts to guilt you into giving the relationship another chance.
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6. Playing the Victim
In an attempt to avoid blame, narcissists often paint themselves as the victim of the relationship. They might tell others how they were mistreated or misunderstood, turning the tables and gaining sympathy from mutual acquaintances.
7. Exploiting Your Weaknesses
During the breakup, narcissists will use any vulnerabilities or insecurities you’ve shared with them against you. They might bring up sensitive issues to make you feel worse about yourself or manipulate you into staying with them longer.
8. Discarding Without Closure
One of the most painful things narcissists do at the end of a relationship is to suddenly discard their partner without any closure. You may be left wondering what went wrong and why the relationship ended so abruptly.
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