Love and the journey to find love are not easy, and they can sometimes lead us down a road that can be heartbreaking at times. One of the most heartbreaking outcomes of a relationship is finding out that the person that you love does not want to be with you.
When this happens, there are several things that you may want to do. However, take it one step at a time. When someone decides that you aren’t the one, don’t chase them. Don’t scream and cry and demand that they tell you why. Don’t argue with them. Listen to what they say, take their words, and walk away. Don’t beg them to love you.
Remind yourself that you will be okay. Because even though it may not feel like it right now, you are better off now than they have told you. Don’t try to list all the reasons why you are right for them, take their words at face value, and don’t internalize them.
It is hard not to take something like this so personally, but the thing is, just because you aren’t right for each other does not mean there is anything wrong with YOU. Don’t make this about you, because it isn’t. You did everything you could and sometimes, it just isn’t meant to be.
Before you met them, you were doing just fine, and you will do just fine without them. It’s okay to cherish the time you had together, but take this as a lesson and move forward. You cannot force this. It’s a hard truth to face, but the reality is, that this wasn’t meant to be. And that is okay. There is something much better in store for you.
So, take this time to heal and grow. Internalize that love you wanted to pour into this person and, instead, pour it into yourself. Be strong enough to not fall back and try to salvage things. Don’t give them that power over you. You are strong. And at the end of the day, you do not need them. Respect their decision to live without you. Remember, if you love someone, and you truly love them, you have to love them enough to let them go when they want to be let go.
Don’t rush the healing. It will take time. Cut your losses and take your dignity and keep moving forward. Whatever you do, do not get caught up in the trap of what could have been. Focus on what is coming your way.
When someone decides you aren’t the one, find yourself. Not the version of yourself that would be anything to be with them, but your true, authentic self. It will take time, it won’t happen overnight. But, by the time this is all said and done, you will be a warrior. And you will be the best possible version of yourself that has ever been. What you are likely to find, is that you will discover the version of yourself that has been waiting on you all this time.