Most people who are fake or putting on a certain persona for others will immediately find someone real to be intimidating. And while it may seem as though some people instantly have it out for you, it’s a reflection of their intimidation.
When you can be authentic in a crowd of people, despite the discomfort, despite fear, you may come off as intimidating, because most people aren’t capable of that. Sadly, many people change depending on the group in which they are in, and they will often put on a front to impress those watching. If you find that no matter how authentic and kind you are, that people often instantly dismiss you, you should check out these reasons why.
1. You stand by your beliefs.
No matter who you are speaking to, when your beliefs are attacked, you stand by them. You may not go out of your way to impose your beliefs on others, but when your beliefs are put into question, you are quick to defend them.
To deepen your understanding of standing firm in your beliefs, consider reading “The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
2. You stand out in a crowd.
Instead of following trends and trying to keep up with everyone else, you dance to the beat of your drum. Your style is unique, and it not only represents your clothes – you are unique through and through and it shows.
3. You don’t need to be in constant company for happiness.
While you enjoy being around others, it is not a requirement for you to keep your mind flowing. You enjoy social days here and there, but in-between, you need time alone to learn and to grow. Other people, who do not enjoy the beauty of quiet contemplation, may think you are anti-social, but they are wrong.
4. You are always evolving.
Instead of eventually hitting bottom, you continue to grow and to learn. You enjoy improving yourself and your life. For those who settle with the minimum – you may be intimidating. But, don’t let them dull your shine!
“Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck is an excellent resource for understanding the power of a growth mindset.
5. You are kind.
You treat people with kindness and compassion, and truly love other people with all your heart. No matter who you are talking to, you are genuine. Inherently fake people may be nice sometimes, but when the mask comes off, it’s not a pretty picture.
6. You don’t let people run you over.
You may not go out of your way to start something with someone, because that isn’t your style. However, if someone treats you like a doormat, you let them know quickly that you won’t stand for that.
7. You don’t need attention.
Many people have an incessant need to have the attention of the world on them at all times. However, intimidating people don’t care if people look at them, or acknowledge them. But, in most cases, people notice you anyways.
8. Most people like you.
In a crowd of five people, four would say they like you after first meeting you, and the other may be intimidated. For people who come off as fake or obnoxious to others, you may be weird because people gravitate to you and run from them.
9. You have a lot of value.
Instead of being all talk, you have a lot of things going for you as a person. You are confident, kind, you put effort into all that you do, and you have accomplished things accordingly. Of course, jealous people will find you intimidating.
For those interested in learning more about personal value and self-worth, “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are” by Brené Brown offers insightful perspectives.
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