People fall in and out of love all the time, but it is rarely ever as mutual as we think it is. Usually, one person falls out of love long before the other does, and knowing the signs is important so that the other party does not get hurt.
While there is nothing wrong with falling out of love, and it cannot always be helped, it can be quite painful for the other person. For some reason, when we fall out of love, we struggle to leave the person we are with and move on. If your man is no longer in love with you and yet still won’t leave you or allow you to truly move on, the signs will be quite visible within reason.
A lot of the time, men who aren’t in love with their partners anymore seem to use many of the same phrases. Below, I am going to go over those phrases. If he says these things to you, please sit down and talk things out so that you can figure out if moving on from one another is what needs to be done.
9 Phrases You Will Hear Often If He Just Doesn’t Love You Anymore:
1. “Quit thinking so much.”
The more you question him, the more he will try to say you are overthinking things. While in some cases you might be if this happens all the time, chances are he’s either hiding something or just being cold towards you. He should be comforting you and closing off your fears, not feeding into them. It’s important to trust your intuition if you hear dismissive phrases like this. For further insight into understanding men’s signals and navigating your feelings, “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys” by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo offers straightforward advice on recognizing when a partner may not be as invested in the relationship as you are.
2. “I don’t have to explain myself to you.”
When he stops explaining the things to you that make you uncomfortable, he could be falling out of or just not concerned with you in general. When someone really loves us, they will answer our questions within reason. Unless you’re too controlling or something like that, explaining himself from time to time might be necessary.
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3. “Do whatever you want to do, I don’t care.”
If he doesn’t care what you do at all, then he doesn’t love you. If your partner loves you, he will make sure to voice his opinion on things. Sure, you make your own decisions, but if he is going to be upset about something or if something might put you at risk, he will talk it over with you before you move forward.
4. “Why do you have to be so annoying?”
If he doesn’t want to be with you when you’re both home or around one another, then there is clearly something going on. He is either going through something or distancing himself from you for a reason. You need to figure out what is going on.
5. “That’s your problem, not mine.”
When you are in love and dating someone, their problems are yours as well. If your partner refuses to actually be a partner, then you should be well aware of the lack of love. This isn’t how it is supposed to work. To understand how different attachment styles can affect your relationship, consider reading “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. It might provide clarity on why you or your partner behave in certain ways and how to strengthen your bond.
6. “It was fine.” or “I’m fine.”
If he isn’t talking to you any more you need to address it. When you ask him how he is or how his day was, there needs to be more communication than this. As a couple, this kind of thing will only close the two of you off more.
7. “I’m too busy, sorry.”
If he isn’t making time for you, there is something behind it. He isn’t going to neglect you emotionally or physically without reason. Perhaps he is too busy, but if you talk it out and there is no change, then there might be a bigger issue. If you’re at a crossroads and contemplating the future of your relationship, “The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: How to Turn the Pain of a Breakup into Healing, Insight, and New Love” by Susan Piver can be a comforting guide. It explores how to find healing and personal growth from heartbreak.
8. “Get over it.”
We should never tell our partners to get over anything. When it comes to being in love, communication and respect go hand in hand. If he is always telling you to get over things and constantly doing things behind your back, he does not love you.
9. “I make my own decisions.”
No, when you’re in a relationship, you two both make decisions together. There is a push and a pull for everything we do. If you love someone, you take them into consideration, and they do the same with you as noted above. Sure, this is only within reason, but if you’re hearing it constantly, chances are things are already quite progressed. If you’re facing the end of a relationship and need support on how to move forward, “Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You” by Susan J. Elliott offers practical steps for healing and finding happiness again.
Once you’ve gotten to this point, you need to sit and talk it over. While there could be a chance that saving the relationship is possible, that doesn’t always happen. You deserve someone who won’t say these things to you, and you deserve to feel happy and loved. Never stay in a relationship out of convenience because you do deserve better.
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