When it comes to being mistreated and neglected in general, long-term effects can end up changing things within your life drastically. Overcoming the things we go through especially in situations that can be challenging isn’t every easy and most people just don’t grasp that.

While looking from the outside in it might be easy to tell someone to ‘get over it’ but it’s just not that cut and dry. Regardless of what you’ve gone through you have to really work towards bettering yourself and finding the ‘you’ that has been lost. Below I am going to go over some of the more ‘hidden’ truths in regards to growing through the things life throws your way and break them down as best I can. How many of these are you struggling with?

9 ‘Secret’ Truths About Life After Mistreatment, Rebuilding Is Possible:

1. It was never your fault.

Whatever you’ve gone through was not your fault. You were a victim and you can overcome the things you’ve faced. Just because someone hurt you does not mean you caused that hurt.

2. Unhealthy means of coping have to be abandoned, period.

Locking your emotions within and refusing to express yourself isn’t going to do you any good if you’re trying to move forth on a healthy foot. You have to let go of the old ways of coping and embrace the positive means of dealing with what you’re going through. You can learn to handle the things you’re feeling properly.

3. You do deserve better even if it doesn’t feel like it.

While you might feel like life is going downhill and you don’t deserve to be happy, you do. You deserve to live the life you’ve always wanted and you will get where you are meant to be in time. Nothing in this world is as easy as it should be but once you find yourself you will begin to grow tremendously.

4. You cannot keep living in denial.

Living in denial isn’t going to do anyone any good. You are not the things you’ve been through, you are a unique person with a life worth living. The more you deny the things you’ve faced and where you are in life the harder overcoming them will become.

5. Repairing friendships and family relationships has to be done.

If you do not work to repair the damaged connections with those who care for you those connections will remain damaged. Your manipulator has made things complicated for you but all hope is not lost. If you reach out, you can correct the things before you.

6. Not everyone who tries to help has good intentions.

Sometimes people come forth who act as though they’re going to help us but that doesn’t mean their intentions are pure. Some of the most positive seeming people turn out to be the most negative. We have to be careful about who we allow in our lives.

7. You need time, lots of time.

It is going to take time to get where you want to be in life. This isn’t going to just stop bothering you overnight. Stop pushing yourself too hard, be consistent but know your limits.

8. Just because you miss someone doesn’t mean they belong in your life.

While you might miss the person who damaged you so intensely, that does not mean that person belongs in your life. This world is full of toxic people and while we might feel for them, we are better off without them. We have to know when and who ties should be cut in regards.

9. If you never forgive yourself you will never truly move on.

You have to forgive yourself for allowing the things that took place to take place. You will never be able to move on if you do not forgive yourself. You are not the person in the wrong and you need to understand that.