When it comes to dating in general far too often we give in to our insecurities and that can be a big problem. The more we allow our insecurities to control our relationships the more toxic they become. 

Whether it’s just one of you or both of you, things will never work if you’re trying to control one another or being over the top jealous to the point where everything becomes a fight. Being in a proper healthy relationship is not as hard as most make it out to be and but doing some pretty simple things you can work to create a more positive connection with your partner.

Below I am going to go over some of the things you can do to work with your partner to create a happier and healthier relationship. While not all of these will be something you can accomplish overnight they will all be very realistic. The more you are able to communicate properly the easier it will be for you to grow with one another rather than apart from one another.

7 Ways To Stop Jealousy And Toxic Behaviors From Destroying Your Relationship:

1. Trust your partner and be open to proper ways of communication.

You and your partner need to be on the same page. You both need to trust one another and be able to communicate with one another openly. When an issue comes up you both need to be able to sit down and talk it through, period.

2. Always do your best to follow through with your partner.

If you tell your partner you’re going to do something, do it. Don’t get his or her hopes up and let them down over and over again. This in many ways creates doubt in our relationships. If you’re not going to do something, don’t say you’re going to do it in the first place.

3. Question your jealousy and only act when warranted – express things reasonably.

Stop overreacting to small things and really take a moment to consider if the jealousy you’re feeling is warranted. Are you overreacting? How would you feel if the tables were turned? Is there really any reason to be jealous?

4. Do not dismiss one another’s emotions.

Be willing to accept your partner’s feelings and hear him/her out properly. You both have feelings and sometimes you’re going to be feeling different things. What doesn’t affect you might hurt your partner and vice versa. Once again, communication is important.

5. Remember how important personal space is.

We all need our space. Just because your partner wants to be alone for a little while doesn’t mean he or she is necessarily cheating on you. You need to be capable of being on your own at least in some situations and on some levels. Relationships are not a cop-out for being able to form unhealthy co-dependencies.

6. Remember to always be fair even when arguments get deep.

Do not fight dirty with your partner. Keep your mind on the subject at hand and do not bring the past up. Talk things through properly and consider each other’s feelings on the topic. Don’t argue in a way that is going to leave both of you angrier and unable to resolve things.

7. Consider your own wounds.

Perhaps you’re acting as you are currently because of something completely unrelated to your current partner. This is something we should not always be so quick to dismiss. Travel within and work things out if you need to.

Sources:

https://www.psychalive.org/toxic-relationship/

https://www.heysigmund.com/how-to-stop-old-wounds-from-stealing-into-relationships/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/healing-together/2012/05/are-you-invalidating-your-partner-without-realizing-it/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/trust-and-vulnerability-in-relationships/

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