When you find a man that you like and the sparks are flying, it can be hard to tell if this person is a good man, or if you are just blind by lust. It is because of that, that as humans, we often second guess ourselves, especially if we have been hurt before.
However, when a good man comes into your life, there will be signs that indicate that you are on the right path. If you are currently trying to figure out whether the guy you are into is a good man, then you should check out the following ten signs that indicate you are with a good man.
1. He makes you want to be a better person.
If you are with a guy that makes you want to be a better person and who makes you want to do more with yourself, you’ve found a good guy. One of the best signs you are with someone in a healthy relationship is that this person will encourage you to be your best self. For more insights on personal growth in relationships, consider reading “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.
2. He respects you.
Respect should be obvious, but nowadays, it can be hard to come by. That said, please do not settle for anyone who does not respect you.
3. He respects your people.
When you find a guy you like a lot, one of the first instincts you will have is to introduce them to your friends and family. However, when they do, if they are not respectful, this is a major red flag. On the contrary, if he is good to your people and treats them with respect, then go for it!
4. He treats waitresses and animals with kindness.
One of the number one requirements I have for dating a guy is that he MUST treat animals and waitresses with kindness. Far too often, people take their anger and frustrations out on people who do not deserve it. If the guy is compassionate and has integrity at all the right times, this is a sign he’s one of the good ones. “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie emphasizes the importance of kindness and respect.
5. He makes you feel beautiful.
If a guy makes you feel beautiful inside and out, then he is a keeper. One of the most wonderful things in the world is being around someone who makes you naturally shine.
6. He is super supportive.
Does he support your goals and aspirations? If so, then he is likely a good guy. Especially if he is supportive at all the right times. Bonus points if he is especially emotionally supportive.
7. He is emotionally intelligent.
Emotional intelligence is hard to come by these days. What I mean, is that many people do not get taught or develop the right emotional tools to recognize their emotional states and manage them. So, to me, as a grown a$$ adult woman, if a man isn’t emotionally intelligent, he is not for me. “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves can be a valuable resource.
8. He is considerate.
Does he consider your feelings before acting or speaking? If so, then he is a good guy. For example, if he was thinking about booking a trip for the two of you and chose the location he knows you have been wanting to visit, that shows he considered you before taking action.
9. He has ambition.
Does he have aspirations and is he driven toward his goals? This is such an amazing trait because it shows that he is focused on reaching for what he wants.
10. He is driven by his values.
Many people do not consider what their core values are, but it is so important to understand what matters to you. If you don’t, you are likely to continue to make major mistakes that will put you at war with yourself. So, choose a man who understands what matters to him. If he can’t name his values, he likely isn’t right for you. “The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life” by Dr. John Demartini can help you and your partner understand the importance of values.
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