There are many misconceptions surrounding the concept of the loner, the geek that lacks the necessary people skills to connect with others. This stereotype fails to acknowledge that there is more than one type of loner in the world – those who choose to live this life and those who are forced to due to specific traits, characteristics or life choices.
As Jonathan Cheek, a psychologist at Wellesley College explains, “Some people simply have a low need for affiliation. There’s a big subdivision between the loner-by-preference and the enforced loner. Those who choose the living room over the ballroom may have inherited their temperament or a penchant for solitude could reflect a mix of innate tendencies and experiences such as not having many friends as a child or growing up in a family that values privacy.”
Whether you choose to live alone due to experiences from your past or simply because you were born this way – the point is that it’s an important part of who you are. You aren’t ‘trapped in this life’ or forced to ‘settle’ for this. Instead, you truly enjoy a solo lifestyle.
Watch out for these 8 personality traits that reveal you were born to live alone:
#1 – Place Value on Personal Boundaries
You have spent some quality time establishing your personal boundaries in order keep yourself safe. For this reason, you place a high value on these boundaries. You will only allow people into your life that will respect them, and you highly respect the boundaries of others. However, if someone shows any indication of disregarding your boundaries, they will be cut from your life instantly.
#2 – Open-Minded
This may surprise you, as many assume that those who prefer to distance themselves from others do so due to a rigid, closed-minded view of life. However, the opposite is true. You enjoy exploring and learning about other outlooks, opinions, and ways of life. You love expanding your knowledge and will happily sit down to engage in a conversation with anyone and everyone, so long as they are willing to show you the same respect in return.
#3 – Time is Valuable
You recognize that time certainly isn’t something that we’re guaranteed – no one knows how long we have before our time on Earth is up. As a result, you have an incredible amount of respect for the time of others, always showing up on time and managing your time together wisely. You also highly value your own time, choosing to work smarter rather than harder in order to improve your productivity.
#4 – Strong Sense of Intuition
Looking back, you see that you’ve always had a strong gut feeling. Even more importantly, you have come to realize that if you trust in that gut-feeling and listen to what it is telling you, that it is incredibly accurate and reliable. Your ability to recognize and tune into this has served you well in the past and will continue to serve you well moving forward if you trust it. Don’t underestimate the power of your intuition.
#5 – Self-Love
This is an incredibly important trait for those who live their lives willingly as a ‘loner’, as everyone needs to feel loved in order to find mental, emotional and spiritual happiness. The difference is that you don’t need that love to come from an outside source. You truly and genuinely love yourself including accepting the flaws and quirks that make you unique. This level of self-love is rare but so important! Keep moving forward, you’re a diamond in the rough. Know that others look up to you for this.
#6 – Avoid Drama
Being born to live alone doesn’t mean you don’t want to be around people at all, simply that you are highly selective. There is no room in your life for the stress and annoyance caused by drama and you will avoid it at all costs. You aren’t interested in large groups full of pointless gossip. Instead, you would rather have a quality one-on-one conversation.
#7 – Highly Empathetic
While you may not want to surround yourself with people, you can’t help but acknowledge their feelings and emotions. You’ve been blessed with a strong gift of empathy, and it is abundantly clear anytime that someone is around you. This can be a powerful tool due to the fact you have developed such a high level of emotional intelligence, truly understanding how to control and manage your own feelings. These are skills you can then put to work in helping others to face their pain and struggles in life.
#8 – Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses
If there is one guaranteed truth, it’s that no one in this life is perfect. While we all have our strengths, we also have our flaws, weaknesses, and quirks. The reason that you often come out ahead, succeeding in all that you do is that you are able to understand and use both your strengths and weaknesses in a very intentional and thought out manner. You don’t need someone else to complete you, you are capable of taking on the world solo.