When it comes to love and dating in this world we go through a lot more than most people stop to realize. Sure, it might seem like positive relationships are everywhere but the truth is they’re kind of hard to find.
With many of us looking for our ‘one special person.’ There is a lot of confusion and deception to weed through before being able to truly find anything real. Your quest for the ‘one’ oftentimes will be littered with damage done by those you thought were the ‘one’ who turned out to be anything but.
Sure, he might have seemed like your perfect match at first glance but the more time you spent with him the more clear his intentions became, he didn’t really love you at all. He was nothing like what he pretended to be and his mask was not something that he could keep on forever. When you find yourself too close to someone who isn’t what you expected them to be you also find yourself losing sight of what you’re truly trying to find.
Yes, you might have good moments that counter the bad ones but that doesn’t stop the fact that when everything is said and done, forever just isn’t in the cards. Fighting for one another will only get you so far, eventually, one person will give up and when that happens cutting ties is inevitable. Finding true love in this cold world is never going to be easy and that is something everyone needs to come to terms with.
This place we call home is full of toxic people and situations that never play out how we want them to. You might want security, comfort, and care but that doesn’t mean it’s going to come into your life right then and there. You have to wade through the waters of all of the toxicity surrounding you in order to get to a place where positivity is capable of flourishing.
When you find someone who turns out to not be your one and only you’re not just wasting your time, you’re helping prepare yourself for all that is to come. You’re embracing someone for who they are and allowing yourself to grow. Through these relationships, we learn what we want and do not want in life and in love. Only through that can we figure out just what our true love in itself will entail.
If you want to find someone to love you on a real level you have to learn how to love yourself first. You have to go through bad relationship, deal with painful situations, and really work to uncover what makes you who you are. Sure, it might be hard but that is just how things go.
Whether timing is what ruined the connection or there was something else going on behind the scenes, even leaving someone who isn’t meant for you can leave you feeling broken. After all, we are merely human. Through these incomplete connections and failed relationships we realize how dangerous infatuation is and how lust is a bit of a murderer in more ways than we usually stop to think about.
We realize how easy it is to get attached to someone even if they aren’t meant to be in our lives for a long time at all. We figure out just how much better it is to break ourselves than it is to remain alone. Sure, you might want to give up sometimes but at the end of the day putting yourself back out there and trying again is the only real way of finding someone worth being with.
After all is said and done, finding your one and the only person will happen when you are ready. Life throws us through a lot of hoops and makes us go through serious trials before giving us what we want the most in this world. Don’t let anything you’re going through discourage you, everything will look up sooner or later.