Narcissists are not people we can merely avoid. There are plenty of them in this world and they are not just going to disappear.
Narcissism seems to be quite the epidemic in current times. We come across them almost daily whether they are our bosses, partners, or even people on the streets. While some believe there would be narcissists no matter what others blame our modern culture on the rise. That being said, the reason behind the rise does not matter as much as knowing how to deal with the narcissists in your life.
Well, to begin with, we need to be able to spot narcissists. They are good liars and are able to hide quite well behind their masks. The number one best way to deal with a narcissist once you have identified him or her is to cut ties. Completely refuse to engage. Do not try to fight fire with fire and do not try to win them over, those things will never work. The narcissist is not someone who can be swayed so easily and he or she is not someone who cares about other people.
When it comes to doing what is best for YOU, moving on is your literal BEST option. While this may not be the answer you were hoping for it is the best one I can offer to you. This is the only way to ensure you are one hundred percent out of their clutches and not dealing with their bullshit.
Narcissists feed off of us and when we cut the supply off we are allowing ourselves to become whole again. When I say cut ties I mean literally completely cut ties, NO CONTACT WHATSOEVER! Once the narcissist realizes you are not coming back he or she will seek their supply elsewhere.
They will move on quickly, whether you think they will or not. If you are dealing with a true narcissist they will find someone else to benefit from right off the bat. You have to be very strict with not speaking to or having anything to do with the narcissist as if he or she wants you bad enough they will try to draw you back in.
Narcissists are charming and kind at first but once they get you in their grasp they become manipulative and cause a lot of stress on us. Because of how their brains work it is almost impossible to make a narcissist truly aware that they are the problem within the relationship and while I hate to say it, it is pretty much impossible for them to change.
You may fall for the narcissist’s mask but once the mask comes off, everything will go to complete shit. You cannot fix this person and this person does not love you. Narcissists only care about themselves. Do what is best for you and cut ties with the narcissist as soon as you realize that is what you are dealing with. Do not let yourself become attached so easily.
To learn how to spot a narcissist please feel free to check out the video below. Do not settle in life or in love. You deserve someone who will truly care for you in the ways you care for him or her.