Many children go through traumas that a lot of full-grown adults would have issues dealing with. And to make things worse, enduring trauma during their early development can have a devastating impact on their development.
These terrors could be anything from growing up with a parent that has some kind of severe untreated mental illness, to being neglected in different ways during your younger years. Childhood terror comes in many forms and is different for everyone.
Adverse childhood experiences, in general, have been linked to a lot of different harmful effects. It can lead to mental and physical health issues. I recently came across an article that went over the story of a man named Joe who had to deal with a mother with severe depression and bipolar disorder and as he grew up, it is quite clear he was forced through too much. His mother actually ended up committing suicide when he was only 16 and that really changed him. Because of the things he went through as a child into adulthood he was unable to properly function because of this.
When we grow up in a trauma-filled environment, those things don’t just go away when we move out or grow up. These things stick with us. The more we internalize the issues at hand the worse the problems will become. One of the most common symptoms that trauma can manifest as when we grow up, is the feeling that we are under a constant threat. There is no denying that.
Childhood Trauma Recovery wrote as follows in regards:
It can include having constant intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and nightmares; such symptoms remind us of what happened to us during our disturbed childhood and trigger the feelings of fear associated with our original trauma. In this way, we can come to feel trapped in a terrifying past.
Furthermore, it is also not at all improbable that, as a result of our childhood experiences, we have developed what psychologists refer to as a NEGATIVE COGNITIVE TRIAD. Essentially, this means our thinking has become distorted in such a way that we can only see ourselves, others and the world in general in extremely negative terms. For example, we may view ourselves as a terrible person beyond redemption, totally without worth and utterly impotent in the face of unmanageable problems; we may view others as threatening, dangerous, exploitative and utterly untrustworthy; we may, too, view the world in general as an extremely dangerous and frightening in a way that adversely affects our day-to-day functioning (e.g. feeling too frightened to leave the house).
We never know what others have gone through and just because someone refuses to make it known why they are feeling the way they are doesn’t mean there is no reason. If you are struggling because of childhood terror or adverse experiences you need to work through it by talking to someone and finding yourself. You might feel like your life is too hard or doing the smallest things is seemingly impossible but with some time and some therapy, you can get where you need to be.
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