As a society, our view and approach to the topic of sexuality can be difficult to navigate. We are highly sexual beings, requiring the connection and physical intimacy that comes from connecting with another being, and yet far too often we try to fill this void with photos and videos of porn stars in often completely unrealistic situations. While some may try to deny the prevalence of porn in today’s society, experts estimate that approximately 28,258 users are watching photography on the internet every second in the United States! It’s a starting number!
The biggest misconception today is that sex = intimacy. The truth is that you can definitely have sex without intimacy! I’m not claiming that sex without intimacy is a negative thing, it has its own place in the world – there is nothing wrong with enjoying a wild sexual experience! The problem arises when we fail to ever have intimacy in our relationships, leaving us feeling as though there is a void.
The prevalence of porn in our society further adds to this move away from intimacy, as it introduces the idea that the best sexual experiences are merely physical events, void of any connection. Rather than exploring the various types of sex, it paints a picture that this is all there is to true sexual fulfillment and satisfaction, and so many Americans will buy into the belief that there is nothing more to pursue. Couple this with the fact that it sets unrealistic expectations for our appearance, tearing down those who may not have the perfect perky breasts or large penis by insinuating that they can’t share in true sexual fulfillment, and you will reveal the incredibly negative image about sex that permeates our current society. It’s no wonder so many of us struggle with finding true satisfaction in this area of our lives!
Is there are solution that can help us to require our sexual expectations, setting us up for a positive, fulfilling and enjoyable sex life? Sex and relationship experts are now pointing to the many benefits of tantric sex. This isn’t a new concept, by any means, with it’s roots dating back to Hindu and Buddhist meditation. Originally based on the idea of becoming one with God, today tantric sex is defined as teaching “slow, non-orgasmic sexual intercourse.” This is an experience based on more than just intercourse, beginning with the basic connection established through kissing, caressing and eye contact. Ultimately, experts say that this experience will bring practitioners to the peak of pleasure, highlighting the real connection associated with a healthy sex life.
6 Benefits of Practicing Tantric Sex in Your Relationship Include:
#1 – Learn the True Power of Connection
While porn and our ‘hook up’ society teaches us that connection isn’t required for a pleasurable sexual experience, tantric sex teaches the exact opposite. Human beings are designed to connect with one another, and if we don’t have this connection in our lives, it will leave us feeling as though there is a void, possibly even leading to such negative emotional experiences as depression. With tantric sex, everything is based on first creating a connection, and then allowing the energy to flow from there.
#2 – Teaches That Pleasure Should Be Mutual
While you certainly should pay attention to whether or not you are bringing pleasure to your partner, it is important to also prioritize your own pleasure during sex. Don’t hand over responsibility entirely to your partner – it shouldn’t be all on them. Instead, take control of your own pleasure. Tantric sex will empower you to find activities that bring you both pleasure, creating a mutual feeling of satisfaction during sexual experiences.
#3 – Introduce the Concept of Mindfulness
If you want to truly enjoy and appreciate any one situation, then you need to ensure that you are present in the moment. Pay attention to the little details, allow yourself to be open to the possibilities, be aware of every aspect of your partner (their smell, the feel of their fingers on your skin, the chill you get when you feel their breath on your neck, etc.), and allow yourself to be completely vulnerable and yet relaxed in the moment. This only comes from developing a deep and trusting relationship with one another, and then focusing on continuing to build on this connection as you go.
#4 – Discovering More Than Just Your Physical Bodies
We have been led to believe that the most important sexual connection that we can establish is a physical one, but tantric sex introduces us to the idea that there is so much more. A true sexual connection will include the mental, emotional and spiritual aspects, creating a deeper, more intense experience. When this happens, your partner can send shivers through your body with nothing more than a look.
#5 – Sex is A Multi-Dimensional Experience
If we take the time to truly discover our intimate needs as human beings, then we will discover that there are many different dimensions to explore. Stop and consider, for a moment, the many ways that you can connect with another individual. This may include emotions, passion, intuition or a connection of the minds, among others. The challenge introduced through tantric sex is the ability to engage as many of these different dimensions at the same time, bringing the experience to the next level.
#6 – Learn to Take Your Time and Enjoy the Whole Experience
While there is no arguing that there is a time and place for a ‘quickie,’ a true tantric sex experience is so much more. It can be difficult to find the time, but those who do will tell you that it is entirely worth it. This may begin with sexual banter, sexting, sending sexy photos, escalate with light touching or back rubs, then lead into some more intense experiences including bathing together, undressing one another, or engaging in some form of sensation play with ice, feathers or spanking. It’s not about reaching the end, but rather about the journey itself.