Sometimes people can be psychopaths, narcissists, and even emotional vampires without realizing it, but that doesn’t mean we should keep them around. Sometimes we have to do what is best for our own well-being.
Toxic people are all over the place and the three kinds of people listed above are without a doubt quite toxic. They use emotional manipulation as a means of controlling you and your personal energy. They work to get what they want through tearing you down and bringing you pain. Does that sound like something you need to be a part of or allow in your life?
The best means of dealing with people that cannot change is to realize that they cannot change and for two, move on. This includes cutting ties and removing them from your life no matter how hard it is to do. While it might be upsetting and make you feel like a terrible person, knowing that you are doing what is best for you and your future will help.
Now, if you for some reason cannot cut ties completely, you still have options. For instance, if you have a child with one of these kinds of people and are forced to still be around or speak to them from time to time or if they are people you work with and another job is not attainable at the moment you should set some really intense personal boundaries with this person. Don’t let them cross those boundaries. If this toxic person is a coworker, limit interactions to strictly work-related. If they bring up something that is not work-related walk away.
I know, kind of harsh but if it’s going to keep you from getting hurt, it’s worth it. The damage that comes with having been so close to someone who is one of these kinds of people is not easy to cope with. It is something you will have to work through and of course, you will have to find your own sense of self-confidence again. Narcissists and psychopaths love to tear other people down and getting yourself in the right mindset to feel good about who you are again might prove to be quite the task.
It is important to remember that narcissism and psychopathy are personality disorders and that most people with these kinds of disorders will never be able to come face to face with what they are and in that treatment is just not likely. While moving on from someone who has made you feel so closed off and dependent on them (depending on the relationship) can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do it will benefit you in the long-run.
Emotional vampires are always going to feed off of your fears and worries. They will not be supportive or caring when you need them to be. You are gaining nothing by having them around. You are giving all you could ever offer and then some and they are just using you. These kinds of people will feed off of your energy until you have nothing left.
They see you as someone they can feed off of and so that is exactly what they do. They attach themselves to you and make you think they’re the best people in the world until the lights are off and everything comes crashing down. Do not let someone take you for a fool, you deserve so much better.
For tips on how to move forward and work through cutting out toxic people check out the video below. When we leave behind a toxic person we are not making a mistake, we are bettering ourselves. There is nothing wrong with doing what is best for YOU.