As parents we all too often feel like it’s our fault when our kids mess up or if something goes wrong, but that’s only true to an extent. At the end of the day, our kids are going through their own things, and no two people are the same.
Don’t blame yourself for the way your kid turns out, if you’re a good parent. You can be the best mother or father and still have your kid end up rebelling or flying off the handle. Your kid could struggle with mental health issues, fall into addiction, simply not like taking orders, or anything else really. You could be the best parent possible, but that doesn’t mean your children will turn out to be what you thought they would or what you think they should be.
If your child is going to be girly, then that is ingrained in your child, whether you push it or not. This goes for basically anything. Your offspring have their own likes and dislikes, just as we all do as adults. Your children are people too, and they’re going to be their own individual selves.
I know, you want the best for your children, but what you see as the best for your child might not be what they see as the best. This kind of thing happens all too often. Parents feel like they failed because their kid chose to go into a lesser paying career or because they didn’t go down the path they wanted them to but at the end of the day if your child is happy and taken care of within reason that should be all you worry about.
While you might not understand what your child is into, that doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong along the way. This in itself is something we should let sink in. You are also not responsible for all of the things your kid does, sure you might have to make up for the things your kids do depending on what they’ve done, but at the end of the day it’s not your fault they did those things.
Some kids just act out and there really isn’t any way to get around it. That isn’t to say that you should stop trying, but it should help you better understand your situation. Sometimes tough love is the best means of getting through to them and well, sometimes it’s not. Parenting is not something that is one size fits all, what works for one parent might not work for another because our children are all their own unique people with their own unique situations. Just do your best and be there for your kids as properly as you can while allowing them to be themselves and see where things go.