Being in a relationship is not all it is cracked up to be, don’t get me wrong it is a beautiful thing but it doesn’t fix all of our problems. Sometimes, being single is a lot better.
For some reason in this day and age we assume getting into a relationship or being with someone, in general, will make us happy but that’s not true. Real happiness cannot be found in others, it must come from within. Jumping from one relationship to the next searching for that sense of belonging is not going to resolve anything.
The lie that finding someone who loves you will fix you is complete bullshit. Sure, being in love is great but it is not the only good thing in this world and we should not be merely living to fall in love. Falling in love should be one of many things on the list and it does not have to be anywhere near the top.
When I was younger I did not understand how to be single, I could not go without being in a relationship and it really tore me apart. I would jump into dating people I wasn’t even really interested in so that I would not have to be alone so that I would have someone to talk to and to really lean on. This was a toxic thing to do in more ways than I realized at the time.
Only by giving myself time and being single for a while was I able to figure out what I had been missing out on. When you are alone with yourself and able to get to know who you truly are real happiness begins to present itself. You get to live your life without the pressure of being in the relationship for the mere sake of being in one. You get to let go of everything that does not serve you and work within to heal the wounds of your past.
Being alone is not as lonely as it seems, it gives you time to become close with the platonic people in your life. Why waste your time settling for someone who is not on your level or even being with someone who makes you feel even more lonely than you were to begin with? Being on your own is not as bad of a thing as modern society makes it out to be.
Live your life on your own terms and take care of yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness, only you have the power to make it happen. Stop and smell the roses, take pride in all that you do and believe in yourself. You have so much more that you can be doing.
When you find someone who is worth your time you will know. Be able to love yourself before you try to love someone else. Follow your dreams and chase all of your goals. Be there for yourself before you try being there for anyone else in that way. Putting yourself first is not a bad thing, it is something that helps you build yourself up so that when the time comes and you find someone to love you can have the best life possible together.
Write your own story, don’t be too caught up in handing over an extra pen. You are the one who decides where to go from here. Being alone is not as much of a setback as this world wants you to think it is, embrace it.