Have you ever wondered who fell in love quicker? While many would assume it is the woman, science may have another outlook on it.
A study from back in 2010 actually proved that while women may be the more romantic sex, they don’t fall in love as quickly as males. For this study, researchers analyzed responses from over 150 college students and found that men express love earlier and fall much sooner than the opposite sex. They found that both men and women assumed women would fall quicker but when breaking things down, it was quite the opposite.
This could be for several different reasons. Women seem to have more of a need to close off a bit and be a little harder when it comes to falling for someone. They approach things with caution and men tend to just kind of dive in and get excited about their partner whether they’re just with that one person or they’re still ‘shopping around.’ Meaningful relationships are a lot more important to both sexes than you might think.
Marissa Harrison who worked on the study and was co-author told Broadly as follows in regards to their findings:
“Women are assumed to be emotional; sometimes overly so, or rash,”
“Both men and women in our study presumed that women would fall in love and say ‘I love you’ faster than men.”
“[But] meaningful relating is as important to men as it is to women. And while societal and cultural norms may have dictated that men should be strong and resilient, the reality is [that] a well-lived life for men will typically involve deep and meaningful, loving relationships.”
“I think women unconsciously postpone love compared to men. Women have a lot more to lose reproductively by committing to the wrong man. They are born with a finite number of eggs, yet men produce millions of sperm on a daily basis.”
“If women commit to and get pregnant by an unworthy mate [with] no help rearing a child, that would be very costly, time- and resource-wise.”
“The male is usually the hunter and is more likely to be immediately stimulated. The woman is more focused on long-term stability because that’s better for child-rearing.”
Men usually spend a lot of time hiding their feelings away so when they find someone they think they love it’s not easy for them to contain. Because they are more territorial than women and tend to be quite protective their true emotions are not easy to avoid like they are for women. I guess it all boils down to how you handle the things before you and where you are in your life.
There are a lot of things that most likely go into this and in the end who falls in love quicker doesn’t really matter. Whether you’re a woman or a man the fact that you’re falling in love at all is an amazing thing.
Women have to be more careful when it comes to love as peculiar as that might sound. Men can be a bit more straightforward with their feelings and that makes things a bit easier for them. What do you think about these findings?
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