Breakups suck no matter what, and while we ladies think we have it rough some men have it rough as well. With that being said, this is not universal for everyone, some men and women just do not care.
We often feel as if the man with whom we had a relationship is out having a good time while we are sitting at home upset dealing with the pain of the breakup. However, this isn’t because he hasn’t been affected, it is because men hurt differently. According to a recent study, men don’t tend to properly get over their past significant relationships.
In this study, the emotional state of about 2,000 individuals who had divorced was assessed and then reassessed about seven years later. The women in the study showed strong indications of having become more extroverted in the years following their divorces while the men became more emotionally unstable. Sure, the breakup will hit the woman harder in the beginning, but they are able to get over things much easier than men in the long run.
Another study actually backs this up, researchers from Binghamton University assessed participants from 96 countries (5,705 people0 and found that men were suffering from the breakup far longer than women were. For a man, the sting of a breakup doesn’t hit right away like it does for a woman. The more time that passes the more that loss will truly sink in for the man.
Craig Morriss researcher from the second study listed says:
“The man will likely feel the loss deeply and for a very long period of time as it sinks in that he must start competing all over again to replace what he has lost – or worse still, come to the realization that the loss is irreplaceable.”
When dealing with a breakup know that it is hard for everyone, not just one side. Don’t assume someone isn’t hurting just because you cannot see their pain.
To read more about this I suggest reading this article by Elizabeth Aura McClintock Ph.D for Psychology Today.