Of course, you love him but that doesn’t mean he loves you. Love can be far more one-sided than people tend to realize and becoming more aware of that is very important when it comes to seriously growing.
If you’re trying to figure out whether he is in love with you or if he loves you at all you should take his actions into consideration big time. The more uncertain you are the more frustrated and insecure you will be, moving forward will not be achievable in this manner. While realizing that he isn’t the one for you might be hard, it is better to do-so now than to wait until you’re way in over your head.
Below I am going to go over some signs that he just doesn’t feel the same for you as you feel for him. Some of these signs will be quite apparent and others hard to spot but all make up something truly important to process. Perhaps he isn’t as head over heels as you think he is.
10 Signs That He Doesn’t Love You, Stop Trying To Fool Yourself:
1. He doesn’t mention much about the future and refuses to make real plans forward.
When we are with someone who loves us they will not mind making plans for the future. They know they want to be by your side so growing together is inevitable. When someone is unwilling to do this they don’t want to stick around long enough to have any kind of real future.
2. He makes you feel insecure and unworthy.
He doesn’t make you feel comfortable. This should be a serious red flag. When you’re with someone who loves you they will make sure that you feel secure and cared for. You will know that you are on the same level that they are without a doubt.
3. He is more interested in your body than your mind.
If he isn’t in love with you he won’t care about your mind, only your body. He will want to be physical all the time but never want to take you out and do things with you. This kind of thing gets old fast and is quick to weigh heavily on your heart.
He doesn’t think things with you will last, so he doesn’t bother to introduce you to his friends or his family. Whenever you happen to see someone he knows they act as if they did not know you existed. This is because to him, you practically don’t.
5. He never listens to you.
When you’re with someone that truly cares about you they will listen to the things you have to say and make sure you know their intentions. If he isn’t willing to hear you out and doesn’t take the time to listen to your words he isn’t as interested as you are. He is just here for the fun until things get boring.
6. He doesn’t seem to care about your needs or wants.
If he isn’t in love with you he is not going to really want to help you get the things you want or need out of this life. He is going to be selfish and make sure that no matter what he has what he wants/needs. You will always be on the backburner in his mind.
7. He is always ignoring you or making excuses to blow you off.
Dating someone that doesn’t love you is a lot like sitting in the dark. He will always blow you off but get mad if you do the same to him. When you are apart you don’t really hear from him unless he wants something from you. Is that really what you want to deal with?
You are the kind of person to go above and beyond for him, but he refuses to do even the smallest task for you. You have to beg him to get him to do things you want or need him to do and even then he hardly does them. This is not love and you deserve better.
9. He doesn’t like making romantic gestures.
If he doesn’t like showing you off or making sure you know that he cares, chances are he doesn’t. Even in the most peculiar relationships, men are going to make sure to ‘woo’ their partners. You should never give more than you take in a relationship otherwise you end up hurt.
10. You feel as if there is a serious distance between the two of you.
If you feel a distance then there is a distance. This is most likely a distance he has created for a reason. He isn’t going to be closed off without reason. Take the hint while it is before you.