Anxiety is something that we all experience from time to time, especially before a first date or a big test. However, social anxiety is a completely different story; there are certain things that people say to anxious people that really hurt them.

Some people have extremely severe anxiety that prohibits them from doing normal day to day activities. Social anxiety is a horrible thing to experience, and it can be even more difficult to treat it. These people have an extremely hard time calling out for help because there is a growing stigma regarding their cases. Many people believe that anxious people are in control of their feelings, but this is not at all the case. Generalized Anxiety Disorder is honestly something that shouldn’t exist; it’s the direct result of emotional neglect, making people who suffer with this mental issue get used to it, thinking that it is normal.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder affects over 6.8 million adults or 3.1 percent of the entire US population, is characterized by persistent and excessive worry about a number of different things. They experience excessive anxiety and worry, often expecting the worst of every situation. This causes them to refrain from seeking help because they minimize their own issues. If someone with generalized anxiety disorder comes to you for help, never say these things to them. They legitimately hurt.

You Have A Lot to Be Grateful For

In today’s society, everyone has a lot to grateful for. People who suffer from anxiety aren’t dissatisfied with the external forces of life, it’s the internal. They aren’t ungrateful, and telling them this makes them feel that way. It also makes them more afraid to seek help in fear of people thinking their spoiled or ungrateful. Instead of saying this to them, tell them that you appreciate them.

Never Say Should

Should is an evil term because it described something that isn’t there. Never tell them what they should do, think, or feel. Instead ask them what would make them feel better, offer some meditation for a change! 

Everything Will Be Okay

This is the most generic saying anyone can say. While everything will be okay, it doesn’t make anyone feel better or solve any issue. It’s a lazy approach of consultation and it makes them feel like nobody understands. Instead say, don’t worry or I am here for you!

Just Be Happy

Duh? Everyone tries to be happy, it takes a little more than willpower and focus. Anxiety is major obstacle in the pursuit of happiness, making it much more complicated than ‘just be happy’. In order to be happy, the patient has to learn to manage their anxiety symptoms.

What Do You Have to be Anxious About?

This is a horrible thing to say because it minimizes their issues. Nobody wants to be told their insignificant for feeling that way. Instead ask them how you can make them feel less stressed.

It’s All in Your Head

No shit Sherlock, anxiety is a psychological issue that takes place in our head… This statement makes them feel almost crippled and trapped by their illness. Stop telling them that they are silly for feeling this way and ask them what you can do to have some fun.

There Are People With Much Bigger Problems

Telling someone that their problems are insignificant compared to other persons is just a dick thing to say. No matter what kind of external forces make you upset, you should never feel like your issues don’t matter because other people go through worse things. It’s not about what’s happening, it’s about how it makes you feel.

Stop Feeling Bad for Yourself

People are too often labelled as self pitying or seeking sympathy. It is okay to ask people for help and admit that there is something wrong with you. You should never persecute someone for admitting they aren’t okay. It is okay to not okay sometimes, I promise!

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